Post # 1
I let my bridesmaids pick their own shoes, and the guidelines I gave were “gold, maybe a peep-toe pump, nothing super strappy or jeweled”.
One did good:
The others, not so much. One is a straight-up stripper shoe. She emailed it to me and was like “hope it’s not too flashy!” Um. It’s snakeskin. With a gigantic platform. And some very aggressive straps. I made a mock-up in Paint to show you how bad it looks.
Okay, so what do I do? Is it my fault for not sending over some examples? Should I just suck it up and let her wear them? I’m worried she’s not going to be able to walk and she’s going to be lurching down the aisle. Also, they look cheap. But I feel like a jerk saying something.
Post # 3
Honestly i dont think they will show up to much. If you are concerned about her walking though and looking like Frankenstein as she staggers down the aisle then maybe I would talk to her about that.
Gold kind of blends in and no one looks at the shoes anyways…atleast thats my opinon. She did techinically stay with in your guidelines so its a tough call.
LOVE the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress by the way!! 🙂
Post # 4
hmmm I don’t think you can say anything at this point. The shoes fit the criteria you provided and I think it would probably really hurt her feelings, (and make you look pretty high maintenance), if you asked her to get different ones. Also, why does it really matter? Have you ever really noticed one bridesmaid’s shoes? No one will even notice them.
On a side note, I actually like them. I think the tapered heel and the heavy straps are really in right now. I don’t think it looks like a stripper shoe at all….just a little more daring.
Post # 5
I was expecting something a little more delicate, I guess. I personally think the shoes are ugly (and trust me, I like a bold shoe) and more “Jersey Shore” than wedding. I think it’s the snakeskin that’s bothering me, not the shape or style of the shoe.
The dresses are short, so yeah, they’re going to be pretty noticeable in pictures.
Post # 6
Can you have her put them on with the dress and maybe take a picture? It might not be as bad in photos, which seems to be the big concern here. Once you see them on film, maybe you and her can both agree that she should find something different if they end up sticking out and looking really bad.
I personally don’t think they look that bad. Like meowkers said, the heavy straps are really in for sandals right now so I almost think it looks more trendy than anything else.
If you REALLY hate it, I think you could say something along the lines of, “I was hoping that you would pick something a little more delicate looking” and give her some specific choices in her price range that you like.
Post # 7
if it makes you feel any better, you will not see the snakeskin in pictures. In fact take a look online at pictures of bridesmaids. Can you really make out anyone’s individual shoe? not so much. I agree that the shoe isn’t the best for that dress but it’s not horribly offensive either.
Post # 8
I was expecting something terrible, but that looks fine to me. I think it’ll just look like a normal pair of strappy gold heels in the photo
Post # 9
I agree that they aren’t terrible. When you said snakeskin I didn’t have a good vision in my head but it is barely noticable. I guess it’s just a risk you take when you say they can pick our their own.
Post # 10
Honestly, I like the 2nd pair better than the first. I wouldn’t wear either, though. It’s my opinion that since they technically fit the criteria that it would be probably more trouble than it’s worth to talk to her about switching. Just think of it as one more thing checked off the list..
Post # 11
I don’t think the second shoes are that bad. Maybe not perfect or ideal, but I wouldn’t call them stripper shoes. I think you should just let it slide.
Post # 12
Yeah, it’s a club shoe. Totally agree with you.
On the other hand, pick your battles, ya know? I don’t think this will have a huge impact on the pictures.
Post # 13
The thing is, this girl has been my friend for 18 years. I thought she was joking when she sent me the shoes! They’re totally not what I expected her to buy. Maybe she was confused by my instructions.
Last weekend, she tried on the dress for me and she had on different gold shoes that were PERFECT! I asked her why she didn’t want to wear them and she said they’re not comfortable and she needed something sturdy and tall (she’s 5’0″). I’d prefer the other shoes, but I guess I will just let her wear the Carmella Soprano heels.
Post # 14
Meh, who cares! Shoes are shoes. NOBODY will look at her feet and go “wow…stripper!”
At least they don’t have clear heels, right? I think they’re cute and the “chunky shoe” look is very in. AND more sturdy on your feet–delicate strapped shoes don’t feel very solid on my feet.
We had short dresses and I told all my girls to do “blush, metallic, gold, nude, whatever” shoes. Whatever they wanted. And they really aren’t noticeable.
Two girls had flats on, one had peep toe nude sandals, two had some metallic type of shoe on, and the other girl had on gold strappy sandals. Pretty sure this is like, the ONLY photo you can actually see their feet in, haha.
Post # 15
See, that looks good, but none of them are giant, chunky, agressive heels.
Everyone really thinks they are fine? With a springy yellow chiffon dress?
I will shut up now.
Post # 16
I would just let it go. NOt worth hurting her feelings over. I too let the girls pick out their own shoes and my SIL had stripper like shoes but yet you cant tell in the photo.
Can you find her shoes?