Not excited about bachelorette party. Help

posted 9 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
6102 posts
Bee Keeper

I feel like vegas a bit of everything, and can still work. Maybe you don’t party all night, but there are day clubs/pools that you can relax AND drink/dance if you want. You can see a show, go to a late dinner, and if some people want to head back they can, and you and whoever else can go to a club. It’s super easy for ladies to get free entry (and drinks!) at vegas clubs, they might change their mind when theyre there in the moment. Go shopping the next day, go sight seeing, then shower and go check out freemont street at night. You don’t *have* to do partypartyparty for vegas to be fun, there is so much more. 

Post # 32
1247 posts
Bumble bee

I think there could also be a terminology issue. Let’s go out to strip every night could be taken as I’m gonna be totally shitfaced and puking on my self for 3 nights in a row or there will be some nice cocktails at a skybar. Staying in could mean board games and going to sleep early or alternatively going to a magic show and then heading to hotel with a lot to wine and play drinking games. 

That being said, your friends are really shitty for doing a 180 especially if you have paid for the whole trip. Yea, there is room to compromise but I do kinda think that you should have a stronger say.

Post # 33
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

As the PP above notes, terminology matters.

Also, has anyone in the crew been a drunken fool recently? Could anyone be early in a pregnancy?

 Such an abrupt turnaround is so strange that I wonder what caused it.


Post # 34
2839 posts
Sugar bee

They’re definitely allowed to not want to get shit faced, but I find it really weird that people would agree to go to Vegas and then just want to have a quiet weekend? 

I’d be careful about how you word it because flat out saying “if you won’t get wasted with me I’m cancelling my party!” sounds SUPER bratty. But maybe you could write a follow up with some other suggestions for ideas for an alternative. Some kind of cute cabin in nature, or a weekend in palm springs or something. That way you could still party one night, but have a couple of more low key activities as well. 

Post # 35
3740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would definitely suggest a compromise. I went to a destination bachelorette and we had a night in our first night (day of arrival), went shopping and walking around downtown during the next day, had our “party night” that evening, had brunch and more walking around the next morning , had a pole dancing class that afternoon, and had a nice dinner out the next night. It was a great blend and everyone had a great time. We even had 2 girls who didn’t drink at all and they still had fun dancing with us that night. 

Post # 36
2012 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m sorry you weren’t able to work this out.  I had my bachelorette in Vegas in my 30s and none of us are huge partiers but we planned in advance to do one big night out and everyone knew they didn’t have to get drunk but would be out pretty late.  I think we were there three nights and I can’t remember what we did the other two nights. Maybe walking around the strip, more of a lounge type place one night?  I think you could have compromised and still had fun.

I agree that maybe paying for it is where you went wrong because only you were invested.  I went into mine knowing we were all invested in it and even though it was my bachelorette it was their money and vacation too. 

Post # 37
97 posts
Worker bee

It sucks that none of your best friends spoke up earlier, but seems like they just went along with the idea since it’s what you like (not necessarily what they’d want to do).

Why not just see how each day goes? You might not even want to buy drink every night. 

Cancelling this late, will you even get a refund on flights and accommodation?

Leave a comment

Find Amazing Vendors