(Closed) not excited about dress shopping

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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598 posts
Busy bee

@wishingonadream04:  I know exactly what you mean! I hate being the center of attention also and I brought it up to my SO about how I will be so embarrassed just walking down the isle. His response: “Get over it babe it’s your wedding day!” Either way I still am shy.

If I were you I would just bring some close family/friends with you to try on the dress and they will get you pumped up I am sure! You’ll look beautiful in the dress and you will be marrying your husband in that dress, of course there is reason to be excited! Who cares whether all the attention is on you are not, don’t focus on what everyone else is looking at, just focus on what you are doing to prepare for one of the happiest days of your life!

Post # 4
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@wishingonadream04:  I sorta feel the same way. it’s sad to say but my fiance proposed to me right when we finished graduate school. While everyone around me was excited for me I was not because I had to take the california boards to get my license. So every time someone asked me for an update on the wedding it’s “nothing. I’ve been studying for boards”

then came the wedding process and as badly as i feel i seriously hated it. it was super stressful and having people give their own two cents about things really sucked too. At first dress shopping was prob the “funner” part of wedding planning bc Im like ok no more compromising and trying to make sure the food, distance, travel time is good for everyone, dress shopping is just for me. but again i’m hating it too bc it’s sooo hard to pic a dress and every time i come out of the dressing room my bridemaids say they can’t read me because i have no reaction when i put on different dress.

i don’t have tips on how to get excited. but lately i’ve been just focusing on thinking of the actual day where I will marry my fiance and how happy i will be rather then everything else that i had to endure that leads up to that day

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry! I was feeling very “not excited” about my wedding for a while. Mostly because I got engaged 3 weeks after moving to a new place. I had no family or friends to share in excitement.

i have started getting excited through joining the bee, browsing on Pinterest, and discovering what I want for my wedding. 

gown shopping was fun but full of a mix of emotions because my family had just flown into town. 

I say- relax and enjoy it, feel your emotions as they come.

Post # 6
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@wishingonadream04:  Don’t bring a bunch of people with you, maybe just one or two. The people you do chose to bring with you make sure they are not the outspoken alpha types who you will feel judged by. If you are plus size make sure you go to a shop who has sizes that will fit you. I’m not plus size but i am a size 10 (but really tall so I don’t look very big) and I sh** you not there was one shop that I went to that every sample was like a size 4-6, so be aware.

Look on yelp and see what local shops have a good reputation for helping out brides and making them feel comfortable. Just try one shop and see how it goes, it might not be as bad as you think (like most things we make seem bigger than they are lol).

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can totally agree. This whole wedding planning thing hasn’t been great for me. I wasn’t excited about wedding dress shopping either. I didn’t get excited until I started putting on dresses that looked good on me. That is when the excitement started to kick in. They asked me all these questions about bridesmaid dresses/colors, themes, etc. And I was just like I don’t know yet because wedding planning was just something I was putting off. Then I found my dress and after that everything just starting coming together. The bridesmaid dress colors . . . everything. So don’t stress . . . go in try and find something you love and the excitement will come to you.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@wishingonadream04:  You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way!  I’ve been trying to get excited about the wedding planning process by staying active on the Bee and Googling various things to get some ideas for decorations, the cake, my dress, etc.  But you know what?  I have a lot more fun looking at random pictures online and commenting on posts than I have actually thinking about my own wedding!  

I think part of it is the sickening realization that a wedding is going to cost a lot more than my fiance and I are really comfortable spending for one day.  Since we’re paying for everything ourselves, this is a huge concern.

Another issue for me is the anxiety that goes along with being a bride.  There’s a lot of pressure to plan an amazing wedding/reception, look beautiful, etc. … And, quite frankly, that’s enough to make anyone feel a little overwhelmed!

I haven’t started dress shopping yet, and I’m also not really looking forward to it.  I’m worried I won’t like the way any of the dresses look on my body.  I’m also worried I’ll fall in love with something that’s just way too expensive.  I’m a little flexible on my dress budget, but I can’t justify spending $4000+ on something I’ll literally be wearing once for a few hours.  Finally, I’m weirdly anxious about having a random consultant in the dressing room with me.  I wouldn’t consider myself an overly modest person, but I’m also not comfortable having someone I don’t even know in a small room with me while I’m practically naked.  (For the record, I hate going to the beach or pool because I hate wearing a bathing suit … Even a one piece.)  The last thing may just be one of my weird issues, but I feel like the first two things are concerns that a lot of brides have.

Good luck with your wedding planning and dress shopping!  If you start to feel overwhelmed, just take a step back and do something fun for yourself … That’s what I’ve been doing.  Smile

Post # 10
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Dude.  You are not alone.  Dress shopping was terrifying for me as well.  I felt awkward and self conscious.  I am not naturally a girly person so I didn’t know what to do with myself.  Everything was white and looked the same! 

My advice to you is to try and relax.  Do not feel pressured to find the right dress on your first go around.  Take your time, browse and let your mum go crazy inviting people during the first round of dress trials. Then book subsequent appointments with less people.   Laughing

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d go by yourself or with one close friend first, then you’ll feel more comfortable with the idea of it and have an idea of what you like/what suits you best. I would have thought that would make being the centre of attention easier. A bit at least!

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