Post # 1
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Bumble bee
A few days ago Miss Cardigan wrote a post about her delayed excitement about her wedding. It got me thinking about my apathetic feelings toward my big day. I mean geez, it’s in like 26 days! Shouldn’t I be getting even a little excited? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love to see everything coming together and I love seeing how excited everyone else is getting…. but I’m not. I mean even Fiance is excited…. and unless it’s sports related he’s never excited. It’s not that I still have so much to do because honestly, there really isn’t that much left. Meet with officiant, go to Sephora to learn how to apply makeup, and rehearse.
Maybe just because this whole process has just been such a rollercoaster I want it to be over? I just wish I could become more excited about such a huge day. Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I felt the same way – everything was so up and down during the planning between the drama with my SIL and Mother-In-Law that I just wanted it to be over with. You’ll be excited on the day of, when it’s happening. Good luck!
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I honestly think it’s fairly normal. My friend had a huge huge expensive wedding earlier this year; everything she dreamed of. A couple of weeks before the wedding her excitement waned significantly because she was just so tired of all the planning. Before the rehearsal dinner she had a mild anxiety attack and didn’t want to come out and greet people because she was so scared of having to entertain and engage with so many people. But, in the end she really had a great time.
I say try not to worry too much, even if your excitement never comes, you will be so happy to marry that man!
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
I know a couple of months before my wedding I wasn’t feeling it at all. I really really wanted it to be over. But, about a week before hand, I got really super excited and it really started to hit me. I think that as it comes closer, you will get more excited. But I totally know how you feel…
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
I was so apathetic about our wedding towards the end. I couldnt get excited about it until I was driving down to Georgia with my mom and it was 4 days before our wedding! I just had SO much going on, so much to think about and it just didnt feel real. Then when we were driving down I was finally like HOORAY THIS IS IT!!!!!! And then I was just excited from there on out! Dont worry….it will hit you!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I’m feeling like this too. I’m not totally apathetic, but it’s borderline. I wish I were more excited, but frankly I’m just stressed out.
As I’ve got 11 days to go until my civil ceremony and 12 until the reception, I’m hoping that this gets better soon.
The only advice I can give (and I’m trying to do the same) is to try not to worry. If you spend all your time worrying about your apathy, you won’t really have a chance of feeling excited. You feel how you feel, my friend. Here’s hoping it “hits you” in a fantastic way! 😀
Post # 8
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Helper bee
It’s ok not to be excited. You’re probably just stressed and burned out from all the planning. It’s totally ok! However, I promise you, the moment you put your wedding dress on, everything will be ok. It’s like the Friends episode where Monica is cleaning in a wedding dress – everything just gets better! 🙂
Post # 9
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Busy bee
As many of you are probably aware, I didn’t go through the “proper steps” of an engagement or wedding. But, I have friends that did. So, I would guess what you’re going through is what my friends referred to as “wedding burn out”.
The only thing I can compare it to is having a baby. For the first 6 months, you’re so excited. Then you hit month 7 and you’re like “I’m so done with this, can we get it over with already?”
Post # 10
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Busy bee
I’m feeling that way right now, even sad and overwhelmed. Is there’s something you can do to beat that?