(Closed) Not excited about planning :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@wishingonadream04:  Our engagement was nearly a year and a half. Honestly, I absolutely hated wedding planning, so I really enjoyed the times that I didn’t have to do anything for it- but yeah, there where days when I thought “Why the heck didn’t we just go to the courthouse immediately so we can be married!?”

There’s actually quite a lot that can be planned this early that I wish I had thought to do… you can work on invitations- at least know what you like, even if you don’t have details. I would actually say do the photographer ASAP- they book really quickly, we booked nearly right after our engagement and we were in tight competition for our date already. You can definitely go dress shopping- for yourself and your bridemaids- any time now. You don’t even have to buy right away, but looking is fun! And I wish I had thought about centerpieces, flowers, favors, and decorations long before I did- which was about 2 months before. You can get a lot of ideas and maybe take on a DIY project to keep the wedding on your mind.

If you hate planning then… enjoy the time off planning. I know it felt like the wedding was forever away, but it will get here eventually.

Post # 4
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@wishingonadream04:  I have not been in a long engagment, but I relate to that feeling of, “I just want to get this show on the road already!”

This is a unique time in your life.  You are working towards a beautiful wedding to a man you love and a day to share with friends and family.  At some point, this will all be behind you.  This viewpoint helps me keep my perspective and happiness (and sanity!)  Enjoy the fact that you have most of the big aspects taken care of, and now you can plan the details at a comfortable pace to create the wedding you’ve dreamed of.  September of 2013 will be here before you know it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We just finished year 1 of engagement, and have another to go. One of the perks of a long engagement, as far as I’m concerned, is that I DON’T have to think about wedding planning all day every day. I have the luxury to do it little by little and not get overwhelmed. I would be incredibly stressed out if I did it all in 6 months like some people manage to pull off! theknot.com has a timeline thing that can help you out, make sure you’re getting everything done in a timely fashion. I have a wedding planner but it is helpful to have it anyways, so I can see the big picture and kind of anticipate what next big decision needs to be made.

Post # 8
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2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@wishingonadream04:  Haha, it sounds like you just described ME. I’m an only child also- although my parents aren’t the emotional type, I did want the wedding to be nice for them. I dreamed about certain aspects of my wedding, like the dress, but not really the detailed stuff that takes the bulk of the planning time. I’m also super shy and I absolutely hated having the spotlight on me all day- I was having panic attacks in the week up to the wedding because I hate being the center of attention so much. Everyone kept telling me it would be okay, I wouldn’t notice all the attention, I would only have to accepts congrats and not even really make small talk, etc. And really, it wasn’t as bad as I thought, and those people were mostly right, but nothing anyone could have said would’ve made me less worried ๐Ÿ˜›

I do think, though, that maybe you could work on planning a little more now, so you have less stress later- the details that I procrastinated on really added up in the end, and I think having such a long engagement made me procrastinate (I always thought, “Oh, I have a whole month for that! Oh, well that’s late, but I still have 5 months til the wedding!”) And there’s a lot I wish I would’ve done sooner to reduce stress. Plus, maybe seeing yourself in some wedding gowns would get you excited again!

ETA: After your last post, I just want to add that I’m pretty sure I’m one of the most indecisive people on the planet. I had to force myself to think… are people really going to care about or notice this little detail? No? Then I need to pick something and forget about it. Or, you can start getting inspiration ideas for flowers and such- no need to pick yet, but maybe if you look now, a few months down the road you’ll have a better idea of what you still like or what you changed your mind about.

Post # 9
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

My engagement was 19 months and for the first six months, I did minimal planning. At the 12 month point, I picked up with bookings and buyings. Now we are 5 months out and planning is in full swing. It will come for you once the time draws near.

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