(Closed) Not excited anymore…(kinda long I guess)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Take a break from it. Step away for a few days. I definitely had some very frustrating days while I was planning. Just walk away, clear your mind, and try to regroup.

Have you looked into having a friend officiate your wedding? Is that legal in your state?

Post # 4
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can empathize.

What about trying to turn it into a how-to-stretch-the-dollars game? That’s helped me get more excited about shopping around.

Also, as far as officiant goes… I’m not sure if this is acceptable to you, but we’re having a friend marry us. He registered as a minister online (free), I’m writing the ceremony (there are a ton of examples and ideas posted online), and it’s totally legal in our state. We’re getting him a nice gift, but it’s way less than $300, and it will be 100% us.

What about looking at wholesale flower packages? BJ’s and costco looked beautiful and have great reviews, and are reasonably priced. I’m going with WedIdeas – Natural touch flowers – and including shipping that comes in $120 less than the cheapest florist quote I got.

Post # 5
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that you should take a break from it for a while…   i like bakerella’s suggestion of having a friend officiate. EVen if its not legal in your state you could get legally married at city hall a few days before or after and then have your friend “officiate”

Post # 7
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Hi! sorry to hear ur feeling that way…. ((hugs))

I definitely know what u mean… and I hope u overcome that feeling soon bcuz u deserve to be enjoying this moment in ur life!! you dont want to let money issues bring down the excitement of ur wedding… I also came across some trouble planning my wedding and had some very down moments.. and now i regret having let those things get me down… at the end of the day… its both of urs wedding and u should have it how u want it, how u can afford it and doing it for u and him and no one else!! have u tried doing some searches on craigslist? I had a lot of luck there.. and even contracted some of my vendors that way… and I love them!! they also have a lot of items that people have used for their weddings that they resell… so u might want to try that option.. hope this helps and a lot of bees on here always have plenty of ideas!! hope u feel better hun! and I hope to hear ur doing better very soon!!

Post # 8
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@RAWR.its.BREN: Our venue used RealTouch flowers in the centerpieces too. Here’s a pic:

I think if you examine them really closely, you can tell they’re not real. I don’t know how many people actually went through that much trouble though :).


As far as the officiant, I didn’t really feel comfortable having a friend our age do it either. Is there an uncle, aunt or grandparent that would make it seem a little more serious? I love my friends, but I would have felt silly having them marry us. I feel like someone a little older would have been a great compromise, though.


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