- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I just wanted to hear from other brides who share my pain. I am currently sending out invitations to my wedding, which I always expected would be on the small side. The event is in my parents’ home town, but no one actually lives there except for them.
When this all started, I told myself I wouldn’t get upset if my good friends couldn’t make it. I myself have been on the other side, where I would have liked to attend a wedding, but couldn’t for one reason or another. Once I didn’t have a job yet, and also had no savings. The wedding was in France. Another time I didn’t know the bride very well (she was a cousin) and I didn’t think she’d miss me. I didn’t decline because I hated those people. I just had other things going on in my life.
But now I’m the bride, and I see it all differently. I wonder when I’ll ever see my friends who live far away again, now that I’m married and busy. If they don’t take the time to come to my wedding, will they take the time to visit for no reason? And I will also have less freedom now to go see them. Kids will arrive, and then I may have no time or inclination to go see them.
And then I think, well, but my closest three friends WILL be there. My uncle and aunt and all their children are coming, even though I skipped out on two weddings from that side of the family. And most importantly, I’m marrying my wonderful fiance.
And yet that irrational side of me still wants my other friends to care enough to make the effort to come.