Not feeling the wedding dresses

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 16
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I found my dress the first day, first shop, third dress I tried on. I think if you shop too much, and keep looking around, you’ll deal with buyer’s remorse and too many options.

If you find a dress you really like, but it’s lowcut, that can be altered with a lace inset.

Post # 17
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1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Definitely keep looking! And try to lose the pressure you’re putting on yourself about finding “The One.” It’s a piece of clothing, not your future spouse! Sure, you want to find something that looks lovely and is flattering to you but I don’t believe that there’s a “The One” dress that’s out there for everyone just waiting to be found. (I blame Say Yes to the Dress.)

Like prior bees have stated, look for dresses that you can add sleeves or toppers to. Also, even dresses that are lower cut can have lace added to the front to make them more modest- you might even be able to repurpose some of the lace from elsewhere in the dress if you need a major hem or other alterations. Good luck!

Post # 18
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4550 posts
Honey bee

I wanted straps and that was hard to find and I finally found one I liked.. My dress was low cut but thought it would be ok but when I got my dress i thought omg its all  boobs and I kind of freaked out. . So they put in a modesty panel in the front and Im so glad I did. If you find the dress that would be perfect but with with sleeves or a modesty panel ask if you can talk to the seamstress there. 

Post # 19
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Have you tried somewhere that carries any of the Justin Alexander lines? They have a lot of full coverage options. I had the same issue with wanting coverage and found a lot of great options with them. 

Post # 20
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I had a similar situation, my mom visited and I went to about 3 appointments in two days at the shops I though I’d like, easily tried on 30+ dresses, and ended up feeling pretty discouraged that nothing was feeling right. Just before my mom left we went to two more appointments, and had some favourites but was definitely not ready to buy. I spent time looking back through my photos and eventually realized it was there, I just needed time for that to sink in. I took about two months to go back and re-try my favorites. If it helps, one of the consultants told me that only about 1 or 2 out of 10 brides there actually bought a dress right away, the majority at least take a few weeks or months to come back and make the purchase.

Have you tried any Maggie Sottero dresses? The Deirdre seems to be very popular with the conservative bride crowd, though it does have a cutout V back

https://www.maggiesottero.com/maggie-sottero/deirdre/9726 

https://www.maggiesottero.com/maggie-sottero/fairchild/9774

https://www.maggiesottero.com/rebecca-ingram/cathy-anne/11239

 

Post # 22
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3858 posts
Honey bee

strawberrybee26 :  Check out Coco Melody. They have some more conservaitive styles. I wish designers would refrain from making all bridal wear a flesh fest, Not everyone wants to look supersexy on thier wedding day. The trend towards plunging backs is especilly annoying for people with back fat, back acne or people who just want to wear a decent and comfortable bra as they say ” I do”.

Post # 24
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m in a similar boat! I have been to 3 different stores and went to DB twice. I am going to two more stores this week and am still feeling that I may not find “the one” but I don’t want to give in to the pressure of buying one that I’m not satisfied with. 

I went in to shopping thinking that I wanted a more modest dress too, with sleeves and/or a high neck, mainly because I have a large chest and don’t need to be highlighting that on my wedding day. A lot of the modest dresses are just very classy and elegant, in my opinion, and I like those styles. I have to say that it’s been very hard to find them in stores – or maybe my consultants just didn’t pull them (even though I asked). Finding them online is one thing but I want to be able to actually try it on too, so I hear you!

I definitely wouldn’t settle! Keep looking and don’t feel pressured to buy before you’re ready. 

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