(Closed) Not feeling this whole wedding thing *sigh*

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There were definitely some things I have liked doing more than others, which is a pretty big contrast to the experience of watching my Boyfriend or Best Friend plan her wedding a while back – she loved EVERYTHING about planning.

You might just be in one of those lulls where it’s a ton of stuff you don’t care about or don’t feel like dealing with? I would maybe look at your list of things to do and see if there’s something that stands out as “fun” and do that – even if it’s way too early.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Not everyone is into wedding planning.  Honestly, it’s a ton of work and it takes a lot of time.  Don’t beat yourself up over your lack of enthusiasm over planning a wedding.  Sounds like you would enjoy eloping or doing a courthouse wedding.  Another thought is to hire a wedding planner who can take care of all the background work for you.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Soon2BeMrsPea:   I Completely understand why you feel this way. The only thing that I can tell you is that this will only happen for you once in your whole life. Dont make any haste decisions about canceling thr wedding and just going to a courthouse (this may just be a phase) Make sure oyu are one hundred percent sure of what oyu want to do. Maybe you might want to have a smaller type of wedding. One that is more intamite and not as , grand if I may, but still captures the romance and specialness of the untiy of you and your husband as one. Weddings do not need to be some huge party with over the top flowers to be special and grand. Its more about the love the couple shares and, for your guests, being a part of experiencing it then any decor or flowers etc a couple may have.

    With that being said, a smaller wedding, a huge wedding, or going to a courthouse to marry the one you love, are all special for the simply fact that oyu get to spend the rest of oyur life with your best friend

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yeah I thought wedding planning was going to be exciting and fun…and I hated it. Even the parts I thought I would absolutely love. I didn’t so much have lulls as periods of extreme feelings of animosity towards this thing I was planning and everyone who was involved.

I mentioned “I wish we could just elope” in passing to Darling Husband so many times that we actually started considering it. But every time I thought about it, I realized I did want all our friends there, and I did want the white dress and the flowers and the candles and people toasting our happiness. So we kept at it, and when our wedding day came, the beauty and the emotion of it made me totally forget about all the months of wedding planning hell. I wouldn’t do a thing differently.

Don’t forget that when it comes to big things like weddings, the pros and cons can’t just be counted, they need to be weighted. If there is any part of you that feels you might regret not having the wedding you’re currently planning, I would try and soldier on. But if you absolutely, 100% would not mind just skipping all the fuss and heading to the courthouse, then go with that!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Soon2BeMrsPea:  I’m looking for fun alternatives now.  <— I like that you realize how important it is to do what YOU enjoy.  So what if you don’t have a “traditional” wedding.  It’ll be all the more special if you aren’t annoyed and stressed when you get married.  Good luck and keep us posted with whatever you decide!  =)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Soon2BeMrsPea: Then I guess you and Mr. Pea have some talking to do! If he will regret not having a wedding, then I’d ask him what his reasons are, what specific things he will feel are missing, and try and work out a compromise based on those.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t have any advice, because I feel exactly the same way. 

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