Post # 17
@musician32992: I don’t think you sound shallow. If you two plan to exchange gifts and he keeps telling you he has something and then gets you nothing…that sucks. If he simply told you that he didn’t want to exchange gifts anymore, for whatever reason, then that is totally different.
Post # 18
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@musician32992: I don’t think this makes you sound shallow. It makes you sound thoughtful and him sound super selfish. If my SO/FI/DH whatever went out and dropped $700 on a gaming system right before Christmas and showed up empty handed I would be returning his presents and using the money on a spa day or some pampering for myself. Maybe that makes me shallow… but unless that gaming system is equally yours and you’re equally as excited about it then I’d be more than a bit butt hurt.
Post # 19
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@musician32992: we go shopping together for stocking stuffers, and separate for presents. I’ve already finished wrapping his presents and putting them under the tree, so I think that gets him motivated to get them early. But think about it this way — you think everything is going to be sold out, but you said you’d be happy with a card… those won’t be sold out! I’m sure he can find you something that isn’t sold out.
Post # 20
Fiance is bad at gifts, hes gone out on my birthday to get me a gift because he forgot, this year we are exchanging gifts so thats makes it easier for him lol
Post # 21
@musician32992: My sister sends her husband links to stuff she wants. It’s not romantic, but it works. She ends up with what she wants and he doesn’t look like an ass.
He’s planning some custom jewellery to give her after she delivers the twins though. She’s so nosy, I bet she’s already forced the surprise out of him.
Post # 22
Yeah, it does kinda suck. I’m not even done getting his presents yet! It’s not that I feel like I DESERVE anything, it’s that I was told I was getting a nice present, with a $150 budget. It stings that he put so much time and effort into researching his own presents and I get nada. I just want a little effort.
Post # 23
@musician32992: Its not shallow to wish your SO put time and effort into picking you a gift for christmas.. I’d try talking to him. Men who ‘don’t do’ surprises are lazy in my opinion, relationships take work and surprises don’t always have to involved gifts with a monetary value.
My Fiance and I don’t usually do Christmas gifts, we buy each other a lot of stuff throughout the year and somehow always end up booking a long weekend away around the holidays. Its nice to not have the pressure BUT he puts effort into surprising me and treating me all year long.
Post # 24
@KC-2722: I’ve asked him so many times for a surprise (something little, like my favorite candy or a bottle of nail polish or something) but I have yet to see one. I’ve pretty much given up on that aspect.
Post # 25
I know for a fact that DBF got me something for Christmas (in fact, I just accidentally guessed my present), but DBF didn’t get me a birthday present in June because he didn’t have the money.
In those sorts of cases, I tend to look at the effort they put into making the day special. While I didn’t get a birthday present from DBF, he gave me a long, handwritten card as usual. 🙂
Post # 26
Christmas he’s good at – its every single other anniversary, birthday and valentines day that he stinks at.
But this year we bought each other tablets on cyber monday sale so our budget is topped out so no presents to open on christmas and we’re not spending it with family because we’re out of state so our christmas will consist of christmas movies and eating way too much food and drinking too much wine. lol
Post # 27
Nope. I won’t get anything, but we already agreed to not exchange. Our sons will “buy” us gifts, but Darling Husband and I will not exchange. We paid for our wedding, plus the 3 boys is more then enough.
Post # 28
Some may think its rude but I give my Mom and my Fiance ideas about what to get me! My Fiance usually gets me some of the things that I ask for and then will get me other things he comes up with as well. He’s a good gift giver.
I think Christmas is really the only time we get eachother gifts. For birthdays and anniversary type events we like to do things… like go on weekend trips or concerts or stuff like that.
Post # 29
@sugar_biscuit: I gave him plenty of options! He just waited too long and now they’re all sold out.
Post # 30
Nothing here for me either. I gave him a James Avery catalog with SIX different things circled I’d like a MONTH ago. Did he buy any? Nope! I actually threw it away last weekend because seeing it sit there was making me sad and he hasn’t even noticed. To say I’m upset is an understatement. He does this shit for every important gift giving event and I thought if I told him exactly what I wanted and how to purchase it he would come through. Silly me. I actually went to sleep crying last night because it’s so hurtful I always find the time, money and effort to get him exactly what he wants and he never will. This theme ( being self centered and not doing anything to make me feel appreciated) is a year round argument in our house.
Post # 31
@mixtapehearts: I could have written every single word in your post. I feel the EXACT same way- unappreciated.