(Closed) Not getting engaged this year, absolutely crushed and feeling selfish to boot…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Dizbee:  Maybe I’m confused, but, won’t you still graduate on the normal time? You were going to be graduating first in the first place, right?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I say go for the 2.5 year engagement. <hugs>. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree. I don’t see why this means you can’t be engaged now. There aren’t any rules about engagement length πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ahh I totally understand why you are dissapointed – it can be pretty upsetting when things dont work out as you had both been planning. But as others have said – why not have a long engagement?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Fiance and I both just graduated from law school in May, and I just wanted to suggest that your Fiance look into going to school at night. Some of the more successfull (certainly, more employed) people in my class were those who worked full time and went to law school part time, at night. They take less classes each semester and graduate in 4 years, instead of three, but the benefits they reap from being employed at a law firm while they achieve their degrees are far worth it in the long run. It will mean longer hours now, but it would be worth it in the end.

 

Just a thought!

 

Edited to add that the legal job market is terrible! Getting better all the time, but currently awful! I would hesitate to hold off on getting engaged if it iscompletely contingent on your being employed right after graduation because you just never know. My Fiance went to a much, much, better law school than I did and it still took him longer than either of us expected to get a job (yet, less time than it took me- go figure). Better to plan for the worst and be surprised by the best, IMO. Best of luck with everything and congrats on finding “the one” πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a few friends in law school, and always heard that working as a paralegal doesn’t really help with networking or job opportunities when it comes to being a lawyer. He’d be better off working as a summer associate. I understand it’s exciting, but maybe he should talk to a few professors before committing to the job? There is no quarantee that this will lead to a job offer when he graduates, and now he has to put his education on hold and take a pay cut right? It doesn’t seem like it would actually be the best thing for him. If he can’t find a lawyer job when he graduates, he could always try to be a paralegal then (if he landed the job now he would certainly land it in 2 yrs).

 

Sorry if I’m being a debbie downer, I just wanted to point out that this might not be the best step for his career. Sorry your engagement has to be postponed πŸ™

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

why not just get engaged now, and have a long engagement? the 2.5 years will go by so quickly once you’re in school.

Post # 13
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Newbee

I say get engaged. 

 

I’ve always felt if you’re planning to get engaged, and it’s all set, and you have rings picked out and you’ve both agreed…. It’s pretty much the same thing before and after. 

 

I wouldn’t worry about the long engagement. You only get to be engaged for a short time, while you’ll be married forever! 

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