Post # 1
I don’t make much money and Fiance supports the household and works countless hours to give us a comfortable life… He just bought me a new cell phone on black friday (my old one was having trouble functioning and I was up for an upgrade) that was supposed to be my christmas present but he asked last night if we wanted to do our own christmas on Friday before we go to his parents for the weekend and I feel awful because I can’t afford a present for him (he knows this) and in order to get him a present I would have to borrow money from him (which is stupid to do and he agrees).. He said just giving the house a good cleaning would be enough of a present and that it’s fine… But I can’t help but feel bad about it.
He always gets me really good presents too, and I always get him like cheap stupid presents like shirts and underwear and a phone case, when he’s gotten me a digital camera, a lap top now my phone…
UGH. Anyone else in a similar situation?
Post # 3
Yep :/ I work part-time and study full time and money is tight. I had a tight budget for getting gifts and it worked out about £10 per person which wasn’t bad. So my partner and I agreed we wouldn’t get each other anything, especially since we are saving to redo the bathroom.
Then, he went and got me a Xmas present!
I hate money 🙁
Post # 4
Give him something that doesn’t cost money. Make a gift book of coupons he can redeem at the time of his choice. Coupons can be for his favorite dinner, a night out with the boys, a car wash done by you, a massage etc. Include some coupons for intimate times and he will be a happy guy.
Post # 5
I’m sorry =[ I was in the same boat when I moved in with DH after college.. I was still a poor college student and he was making the money. I got a good paying job about 3 weeks later, but of course within that 3 week period was his birthday! I scrounged up money and ended up getting him something, but I remember spending all that I had and feeling terrible.
What about something homemade like.. a “Coupon book” with massages, backrubs, etc? Just don’t worry too much, I’m sure Fiance loves you and will not care that you couldn’t buy him something fancy. =]
ETA: julies1949 it looks like we’re on the same page! =] Something homemade and heartfelt will be very special!
Post # 6
I agree with Julies1949…give him something that is heartfelt but doesn’t cost money. I always think that the coupon idea is great. Make a mini scrapbook of your time together. Or, make him a memory jar (I did this for our anniversary last year). Take a jar (or box or whatever) and decorate the outside. Then take slips of paper and write one compliment or heartfelt thought on each one. I used a mason jar and did 365 slips and gave him a complete year full of love and praise. He actually put the jar in the console of his truck so that he can pull one out every morning. It was a big hit!
Post # 7
Try googling gifts that don’t cost anything. I’ve done it before and have found some good ideas.
If all else fails, you could always make him a card and write something really sweet in it.
Post # 8
@julies1949: haha I’ve done that in the past too, he never uses them so it’s kind of pointless. But it is a good idea for anyone who’s guy would use them!
I’ve also tried to bake his favorite desserts one year too… He’ll have one slice of pie or whatever then leave the rest… It’s just a waste and I swear he only has a slice because he feels bad. lol
But I’m glad I’m not the only one in the world who doesn’t/hasn’t had the money to buy a present. I work two part time jobs that barely pay my bills and the past week and a half I haven’t worked one of them because of the weather… So money is SUPER tight right now.
Post # 9
Definitely been there. I agree with PP that you could try something that doesn’t cost money … definitely clean the house since he specifically said that, but maybe add on cooking him a fancy dinner that you know he loves or something extra that’s easy but shows you care 🙂
Post # 10
It’s understandable and besides maybe gifts aren’t important to him! Did you read 5 languagges of love?
My Dear Fiance never wants gifts though he is surprised and appreciates them when he does get it. He got me a new iPhone this Xmas and I got him some vintage Casio watch with cost like 1/8 of the phone but he doesn’t care.
Post # 11
@o0olibelulao0o: I don’t think you need a lot of money to give a great gift. You can cook him 3 of his favorite desserts and suprise him when he come home from work naked in an apron, you can throw him a super bowl party that includes cleaning pre/post party, whatever foods he wants cooked for his friends, and a case of his favorite beer, you can prepare his favorite dinner and serve it in sexy attire and he can upwrap his present (you). There is so much you can do without a lot of money, it takes a little effort and creative juice. Good luck.
Post # 12
Here is an article with some fun ideas on gifts that don’t cost money. http://www.marieclaire.com/celebrity-lifestyle/articles/free-gift-ideas
My personal favorite is the scavenger hunt.
Post # 13
Make his favorite meal for that night, get his favorite beer/drink to go with it. Maybe rent his fav movie? Just an idea 🙂
Post # 14
What about dressing up hot to trot and making him a nice dinner at home? Then maybe pull out some old lingerie that you haven’t worn in awhile and rock his world for dessert? 🙂
Post # 15
Give the house a good cleaning if that’s what he asked for but do an extra good job.
Maybe his love language is the one where you do stuff for him like clean, cook, etc.
Service, I think?
There have been years when I couldn’t get Fiance anything and I felt awful too. If you look at the big picture, as long as you try to do something special for him… that’s what counts.
Post # 16
What about writing him a card telling him exactly how grateful you are for what he does and how much he means to you?
Does he like to eat? Could you bake him a cake? I really the a PP’s idea of cooking his favourite meal.
When I was seriously broke a few years back I wrote all my family an individual lymeric taking the pi55 out of them and it made them laugh. Sounds a bit ridiculous but they got to laugh when they opened it…..