(Closed) Not giving up seats to pregnant women

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This is sadly not shocking at all. I live in DC and take public transport to get to work, and am very visibly pregnant (31 weeks tomorrow, petite frame) and rarely do I get offered a seat on the crowded train. When I do, it’s almost never by a man. I personally consider it basic manners, regardless of gender. I stand up for everyone – pregnant women, anyone with an injury, the elderly, men or women carrying a small child.

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

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Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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funnyfox :  Things have actually gotten much better, thanks for your concern. The only thing that you achieve by trying to put me down by my NON RELATED troubles with inlaws is making yourself look petty and juvenile. 

I was not rude to you, and it is clear that I am nt the only bee who disagrees with you. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My fi would have offered his seat, and I’d probably have asked the organizers for more chairs, however I hate the expectation of some pregnant people to have others falling all over themselves for them. Being pregnant is a choice, why should other people have to make concessions for you? Aging or injuries aren’t. And if people won’t ask for a seat they are just as ‘at fault’. No, it’s actually not that difficult to ask someone for their seat, especially if it means so much to be ranting about it after the fact lol.

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

The outrage over this is so ridiculous to me. If you weren’t put out enough to either politely ask someone to give up thier seat or find an organizer and ask about more chairs then bitching about it afterward is just petty and ridiculous.

Like oh my god I’m pregnant and had to stand, it was so horrible but not horrible enough for me to make even the smallest effort to get a seat just enough for me to be super offended and bitch about it on the internet afterward. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I live in Manhattan, I always give up my seat to the elderly, disabled, pregnant, and small kids.  My mom was with me, she’s in her 60s with a broken arm, and people sitting in the priority seats didn’t get up, so I yelled at them.  A study shows that men of Hispanic and African-American background are the first to give up their seats to a pregnant woman followed by women, and white men almost never give their seats up.  It’s very shameful that people don’t give up their seats to those that should be sitting down on a bumpy train ride.  I always scold people that are in priority seats that don’t give up seats to those that need them.  I mean come on, people, it’s the law!

Post # 37
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I do have to say that my Darling Husband was young when we were married and did not know he should give up a seat to a pregnant or elderly woman. He grew up in farm country, and while he would automatically hold a door for someone, he had never been on public trans before we were married. On our honeymoon we rode a shuttle from the hotel and an elderly woman stood next to him in the aisle. I whispered to him that he should offer her his seat, and he did. Ever since then, he has been aware of the “rules” of polite society. I don’t necessarily fault young men for not knowing if they were never taught, but that wives would be so needy as to insist their DHs sit next to them in a seminar for pregant women? Those WOMEN need to get over themselves.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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funnyfox :  I agree, if a pregnant woman feesl like they need to sit, they should speak up. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m not shocked at all by their behavior which is the sad part. I live in Los angeles and I’m still surprised when anyone that’s a stranger, not just men do something nice for me out in public. Common courtesy, common sense and chivalry are all on a decline. My fiance is the type that would have given his seat up immediately even if I had insisted he stay seated with me (which I wouldn’t have) because that’s just how he was raised and the person he is.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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Itsnotme :  I wouldn’t have to ask my husband to offer his seat, I know he would anyways.

So strange!

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