Post # 1
Long story short, I had a bad wedding. It was a nightmare and in fact the worst day of my life. I seriously never want to go to another wedding in my life and I have nothing but bad wedding memories.
In part, I was furious with my husband’s family. They all swore their support and assistance and in the end, left me hanging. (Our wedding was in another country where I didn’t understand the wedding traditions, procedure, etc)
Now my husband’s neice is getting married and I refuse to go. He just asked me if I have a response for him when people ask him why I am not there. I told him to just tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may, but he is not thrilled with that advice. In addition, this family has SERIOUS problems with abandoning their children, sexual abuse and more…I don’t want to be around them.
Any ideas for my husband? I told him I will support any lie he wants to tell, but I have no idea what to tell him. I am generally just a tell the truth kind of girl.
Post # 3
say that you couldnt get the time off work – i wouldnt be any more elaborate than that and no need to bring up your own wedding disappointment with the bride, she has enough to deal with her own wedding
Post # 4
My suggestion is to still go with the truth. I am also a “truth kind of girl”. But in this situation, I would still go, if I was able to budget for it. It is not the couples fault that you wedding turned out the way it did. And it would make you the better person.
Post # 5
I would go with my husband. Boycotting someone else’s wedding will not improve the memories of your wedding.
Post # 6
@happynow: I would defenitely go with your husband, remember you vows unless this niece did you wrong even than be supportive.
Show them that you are better than them
Post # 7
I would also attend the wedding. Your most important relationship is with your husband, so go to support him. Don’t put him in the awkward situation of having to either lie for you or tell an uncomfortable, confrontational truth.
Maybe moving on and attending this wedding will help you ket go of all that anger from your wedding.
Post # 8
@julies1949: I agree. Your bad experience was not your niece’s fault, I’m assuming (you say your husband’s niece, but I’d like to point out that makes her your niece too, and I think you should be there for her on her wedding day – don’t leave her hanging like others did to you).
Post # 9
Take the high road and attend thh wedding. I’m not sure what point your trying to prove by not attending her wedding.
Post # 10
I say that if it’s not only the bad wedding you had, but also that his family kind of sucks, then yeah I would say don’t go, and tell your hubby to tell them you weren’t in the mood, or weren’t feeling well. Maybe the couldn’t get off work thing could work.