- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I am just curious… is it just me or is there anyone else out there that isn’t doing their wedding to the “T” of Wedding Planning for Dummies? I mean, I wish I had the dough and time to do some of the really beautiful extravagant things I see and hear others doing…. but is it that really that crucial? I keep feeling like something is wrong with me for not being so focused on tradition and details. I never dreamed of my wedding growing up… I never thought I would marry until at least 28—never 23. All I learned, by watching day time television of course, was that the bride needed to have something old, new, borrowed, and blue. She was suppose to be drop dead gorgeous, and her family was there and they had a party. Is it still this way for anyone? I find myself being drowned in the ideas that my entire stationary matches, my shoes can only be so high/low, and its tacky of me to use silk flowers, and I should be sweating my mind into the size of a peanut trying to figure out what to buy for all of my guests as favors that’s gonna be thrown int he trash anyway.
This is mainly for brides and grooms who are paying for at least 90% of the wedding themselves. I understand many people that do have help, are able to indulge in other fancies, like decided between hiring a calligraphy artist to do the addressing on their invites, or having the paper professionally made from real life recycled panda hair, embroidered with fairy dust ink… (yes…sarcasm)
But I think that maybe I am just catching the drift from so many people at home who think that it is just as simple as pie to have all those things at your every whim. I am nearly done with school working two jobs. My fiance does as well… We aren’t struggling, but the economy hit hard when I got laid off last year…
I’m just having a hard time feeling like I am living up to the idea of “perfect” I suppose. I think I am more stressed at the wedding actually happening financially, then anything else.
Anybody else out there not stressing over the details within the wedding? I just want to know that something isn’t wrong with me. I feel odd… like I’m suppose to be super nervous, and super anal about everything wedding related. Before my Maid/Matron of Honor told me it was “inappropriate” I was about to scribble all addresses on the Save-The-Date Cards, slap on a stamp and send them on their way. Who knew that it was considered tacky?? Not I… I just figured it was cheap, it was fast… and I didn’t think my handwriting was that atrocious…well…maybe just a little
I guess I feel that I’d rather the detail lie in what I feel like on that day, and what I can remember…
Sorry so long… guess it kind of came out like a mini rant…
And by the way… if your using recyclable toddler eyelashes for your Invitation envelopes…power to you 🙂