(Closed) Not happy with invites – Have you had to accept something you didn’t love?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

If you’re having them done professionally, then I’d say you should be happy with the final product. Can you talk to the printer about your concerns and see if she can fix them?

I went for budget friendly with my invites and ended up with invites I didn’t really like, but they were nice enough and got the job done. But if I were paying a professional to print them, then I’d want to be really happy with the final product.

Post # 4
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds like your mom paid the printer and that you ok’d your mom communicating with the printer to make changes, so from the vendor’s point of view, I don’t see them carrying any blame or obligation to change the design.

I think that maybe you should just let yourself be disappointed, assemble the invites and send them out.  I remember feeling VERY disappointed in my invites, but I found one the other day, and I realize that I love every detail!  I just needed to step back (for 8 months) to truly appreciate them!

Post # 6
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Aww, I’m sorry. ๐Ÿ™ I had a “meh” flub with our save the dates, so I sort of understand. (Even though the invites are of course a ginormously bigger deal).

I have been getting my knickers in a wad lately over tiny little details being wrong. Not like hulk-smash angry, but just whiny. I just hope it’s a normal wedding-stress thing.

I don’t know how to tell you to make more smiles other than I feel ya’.

Post # 8
1580 posts
Bumble bee

There are a few little things about my invitations that are bothering me, but I’m getting over it because once I send them, they’ll be out of my hands and I don’t have to look at them ๐Ÿ™‚ Plus, no one who is getting the invitation will know what you really wanted, and they probably wouldn’t notice the difference anyway.

Post # 9
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Aww.  I totally feel you.  I decided at almost the last minute that I didn’t like our invitations (too formal, wrong color, wrong printing), and found some that I loved loved loved.  Buuuuut, the money had already been spent on the others, so I ended up going with the originals even thought they’re not perfect.  I even designed the originals, and wasn’t thrilled.  Way to go, me.  But, the originals are pretty, they’re fine, there is nothing wrong with them.  That was my mantra for a few days, then I realized that the only importance they had was what I had given them.  So I de-emphasized them in my mind, and, as cheesy as it sounds, it worked for me.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i didn’t really like my invites either.. but after stuffing them away for a while and coming back to them, they don’t bug me as much. plus i promised myself i’d make up for it with the next project, which has helped me refocus tremendously.

i think after putting so much time and effort and thought into something, you want to be blowed away by the results..so anything even slightly less than perfection feels like a big deal, even if it really isn’t.

Post # 11
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I can see why you would be bummed about this situation. Maybe after they’re printed, you could add a detail or two to spruce them up?

Maybe add them to a solid colored card backer or pocketfold, like this:


Or maybe a pretty ribbon “belly band” around the entire invitation suite. That always looks really elegant.

Post # 12
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry that you’re not feeling happy about the invitations!  I am DIY-ing them and there are definitely some invitations that are slightly crooked and such that I HATE.

At the end of the day, while invitations are something you do WANT to love, the most important thing is that you and your Fiance are getting married!  The invitations are just a piece of the wedding, and while it’s hard to send out things you don’t love, I think that thinking about the big picture will help you. 

I know for me, the crooked ones are getting sent to boys that barely look at the invitaitons (hah!) and at the end of the day, as long as I have food, a DJ, an officiant, liquor and my groom, I’m getting married.  If people don’t want to come because of a crooked invite, then I don’t want to host them anyways!

That being said, if your big picture is seriously marred because of the invitations, then definitely try to modify them.  For me, my big picture doesn’t change a whole lot with the crooked invites.

Post # 13
7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you’re totally normal.

Def do have a talk w/your mom Daniellemybelle. I’m sorry you’re disappointed w/them, but do keep in mind, we’re rather picky here at WB and what we see as faux pas’ might not be even picked up by any guest.  (guess it’s our crazy attention to details around here ๐Ÿ™‚ )

I think it’s the same with everybody..one day we love one dress, next day it’s another, one day it’s this std, another one the next. 

Open up dialogue w/mom though as a first step.  Maybe she can negotiate something with this graphic designer?  Just a thought.  Hugs!   

Post # 14
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

aww..that sucks..I’m a perfectionist so I know what you’re gong through…hang in there. the Bees are right, you may find you like them after all…

btw…I’m learning to love my venue. Its not the grand wine estate that I envisioned at all (its a hall w/ outdoor patio), but with a little work & creativity its turning out to be ok…

Post # 15
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.  Your guests won’t know the changes big or small so don’t worry about them.  Know that you aren’t alone in the disappointed area.  I’m concerned with my flowers.  I shouldn’t be but my aunt’s shop is doing them and they are amazing designers. I have sent them inspiration photos and they are so excited. I just know that what they design will be beautiful but I’m worried that I might be disappointed because my expectations of them and their work is so high!

Post # 16
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sure every bride is unhappy with some aspect of her wedding – a “perfect” wedding doesn’t exist in real life! I think it’s all about your attitude – remembering what’s important and not stressing too much about the details. 


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