(Closed) Not having a bridal shower/ rehearsal dinner/ bachelorette party??

posted 6 years ago in June 2012
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with this. I had a shower but no rehearsal dinner or bachelorette party. I didn’t want the last two. Have you mentioned how you feel to friends, family, BMs? Is it possible they don’t know you want them? I know they should, but, hey, people can be dense.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No shower or formal rehearsal dinner. We will order $300 worth of food and drinks for the night of the rehearsal but it’s not like the dinners I have been up before. No shower either. My coworker asked if I wanted one but I’m notclose to anyone at work and anytime anyone at work had one I always thought it was gift grabby. So I declined that. I am ONLY having a bachlorette cause my Fiance is having a bachelor party and I was feeling left out. Only 5 of us going total though, not like the 15-20 ppl bachlorettes I hear of though. I wish I had the money to have a “nice” rehearsal dinner to bring the brides side and groom side together before the BIG day. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not having a June wedding but I dont think I’ll be doing any of these.

If you want the bachelorette party then I think you should organize it yourself. Maybe just something casual if you’re getting the impression that people are hesitant to spend money. I dont think you should feel badly about putting this together yourself, maybe just have something else send out the invite once you organize if that makes you feel better 🙂

The bridal shower is probably something your maid of honor should throw but honestly, people spend a lot of money on attending weddings and I feel that asking my friends to get shower gifts AND wedding gifts is a bit much. I’m also living aboard at the moment and won’t have time for all of this kind of stuff. Though I wouldn’t have a wedding shower anyway bc it just doesn’t feel right. As for the rehearsal dinner, we have to pay for the wedding ourselves and I just dont need another cost/worry tacked onto the list.

I’m sorry if you’re feeling left out but that’s not really the stuff you’ll remember anyway!! 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m getting a bridal shower/bachelorette (two weeks away) but we won’t be having a formal rehearsal dinner. Part of it will depend on my mother’s health (she’s fighting cancer, but not winning at the moment) and who is actually interested… we’ll probably end up grabbing some pizzas or something to feed people who want to stick round after the rehearsal.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I skipped most of that stuff.  Not my thing.  My Maid/Matron of Honor did host a nice coed dinner for me in lieu of a bridal shower.  She cooked an amazing meal, and it was fun to have some of our friends all together.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have no family or anyone from my bridal party in town so I won’t be having anything.  Well, I heard my job is suppose to do a little surprise something for me.  I’m just doing a little bbq for the rehearsal and we might go to the club the night before but that’s about it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not having a bridal shower. I would feel extremely awkward opening presents with everyone staring at me (and it’d probably be mostly people I don’t know at all that my Future Mother-In-Law would invite just so people wouldn’t be offended), trying to display equal enthusiasm for each gift.

Probably not having a rehearsal dinner.

I am having a bachelorette camping weekend instate with some hiking and bonfires.  I’ll treasure that time spent with my friends more than going barhopping.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No shower, I’m an encore bride so to me that would be ridiculous, b-party only because i was going to vegas for fi’s sister b-day anyway and she insisted on combining the 2 events, and super low key rehearsal dinner.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m a May bride, but I thought I would chime in. Sorry you are missing out on the traditional activities. We’re skipping them too. I’ve been married before and we live together so we don’t really need anything. But I decided that I wanted to do SOMETHING. All of the ladies are going to the nail salon the day before our wedding. We don’t have a wedding party so I opened it up to our entire female guest list (about 12 women) It’s only $12 per person for a mani and then we’re going out for dinner at a cheap Mexican place. Everyone is paying for their own but all together it should be about $25 each unless they go nuts with drinks or something. The awesome part is, since I’m the bride, the salon owner is doing my nails for free Woo!

 

You could always throw just a small bridal shower with punch and cookies. Have one of your people “host it” but you can bake the cookies and such. Who has to know? If you’re worried about people giving you gifts they can’t afford, just pass it off as a small gathering for your ladies.  

Or have a slumber party with your girls, eat junk, watch movies, and talk about boys of course!

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am not really having a formal party, shower or rehearsal dinner. It is not cultural in france, and my friends and family are too far to do anything / they are paying a lot just to come to the wedding. My best friend came for a day and we did a high tea and nails just the two of us, which I really appreciated. Before the wedding I am planning a picnic with the americans somewhere in Paris, and the night before the wedding my Future Mother-In-Law is kind enough to cook for all the guest who are out of town. Then the day after the wedding there is a catered brunch which is more of a big deal in France. I’m thankful for the events planned and am looking forward to them, but I guess the American in me misses things that are traditional to my own culture.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not having any of these parties either but in all honesty it is because I really dont want to.

We have lived together for over a year and have a house and  a baby. Seems silly to ask people for things I dont need.Plus Fiance and I both dont drink party ect… so no Bach parties

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Nope!! Laughing Not a tradition in my country so i don’t miss it!!!!

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