Post # 1
So I’m seriously thinking about not having a first dance. With the way things will be flowing, I’m not sure it would work.
We’ll have dinner and then go to the reception (in a different room). We’re getting married in Scotland and are starting the dancing off with a ceilidh – traditional Scottish folk dancing. There will be partner dances and group dances but none of them are slow dances. After an hour to an hour and a half, we’ll transition over to a DJ and more “normal” music.
Doing the first dance before the ceilidh seems weird to me. Doing a first dance after the ceilidh and before the modern dancing starts seems weird as we’ll have already been dancing so its not our first dance as a married couple.
I don’t think I’ll regret not doing it. And it saves the pain of trying to figure out WHAT to dance to – we don’t have “a song” so it would be a process to figure out out.
Thoughts? Any ideas on how to make it work? Am I nuts for skipping it?
Post # 3
How does the ceilidh begin? You could simply have your “first dance” be the opener for the ceilidh – that way, you are sharing it with your community and your heritage, your friends and family, as well as your new spouse. There’s something kind of nice in that, actually.
Post # 4
I’ve been married for five years, we eloped, didn’t do any of that stuff and I didn’t miss any of it…he kind of made up for the whole, No First Dance thing one night out, after we’d been married a little over a year, we danced to Bless the Broken Road like we were stuck to each other and my sweet cowboy sang the lyrics in my ear, while stealing glances with those baby blues from underneath his pulled down Montana hat, I’m amazed that they didn’t have to mop me off the floor! So glad that moment was just for us….
Post # 5
no, you’re not crazy! it’s your wedding and if don’t want to have (or think it won’t fit in) a first dance, then you don’t have to. our first dance was so awkward. neither of us like being the center of attention so knowing everyone was staring at us while we were slow dancing was just weird. we felt like we were at a middle school dance. i don’t regret doing it but i wouldn’t have regretted skipping it either.
Post # 6
It’s socially conventional to start the night’s dancing by having the guests of honor dance (i.e., you and your husband). What do the Scots do?
That said, it’s your wedding reception and your choice on what to do.
Post # 7
I would skip it. Sorta wished we had. I dislike it as a guest, standing around watching for what seems like an eternity, plus disliked it as a bride.
Post # 8
It’s supposedly bad luck for anyone to dance before the bride and groom. I don’t see why you couldn’t do it before the professional dance presentation.
Post # 9
I am thinking of ditching mine, we don’t really have a “song” (doesn’t mean we can’t find one) but I am a horrible dancer. My FH also doesn’t want to go to dance lessons. Totally different case than yours, but yes, you can skip it if you’d like.
Post # 10
We didn’t have one, as we didn’t have any dancing at all! H and I both HATE dancing, and would have felt really stupid. Honestly, do what you want. We had a morning wedding followed by a champagne brunch. We did have a few short toasts, but other than that just eating, drinking, and socializing. It was great.