(Closed) Not having a first dance? Am I crazy?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee

How does the ceilidh begin? You could simply have your “first dance” be the opener for the ceilidh – that way, you are sharing it with your community and your heritage, your friends and family, as well as your new spouse. There’s something kind of nice in that, actually.

Post # 4
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’ve been married for five years, we eloped, didn’t do any of that stuff and I didn’t miss any of  it…he kind of made up for the whole, No First Dance thing one night out, after we’d been married a little over a year,  we danced to Bless the Broken Road like we were stuck to each other and my sweet cowboy sang the lyrics in my ear, while stealing glances with those baby blues from underneath his pulled down Montana hat, I’m amazed that they didn’t have to mop me off the floor!  So glad that moment was just for us….

Post # 5
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

no, you’re not crazy! it’s your wedding and if don’t want to have (or think it won’t fit in) a first dance, then you don’t have to. our first dance was so awkward. neither of us like being the center of attention so knowing everyone was staring at us while we were slow dancing was just weird. we felt like we were at a middle school dance. i don’t regret doing it but i wouldn’t have regretted skipping it either.

Post # 6
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s socially conventional to start the night’s dancing by having the guests of honor dance (i.e., you and your husband).  What do the Scots do?

That said, it’s your wedding reception and your choice on what to do.

Post # 7
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would skip it.  Sorta wished we had.  I dislike it as a guest, standing around watching for what seems like an eternity, plus disliked it as a bride.

Post # 8
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

It’s supposedly bad luck for anyone to dance before the bride and groom. I don’t see why you couldn’t do it before the professional dance presentation.

Post # 9
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am thinking of ditching mine, we don’t really have a “song” (doesn’t mean we can’t find one) but I am a horrible dancer.  My FH also doesn’t want to go to dance lessons.  Totally different case than yours, but yes, you can skip it if you’d like.

Post # 10
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We didn’t have one, as we didn’t have any dancing at all!  H and I both HATE dancing, and would have felt really stupid.  Honestly, do what you want.  We had a morning wedding followed by a champagne brunch.  We did have a few short toasts, but other than that just eating, drinking, and socializing.  It was great.

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