(Closed) Not having a photographer… Because of insecurity

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you’ll regret not having pro photos in the future. I understand not loving the way you look and being self-conscious about photos of you. But you should still have a photographer to document the rest of the day – other people, the details, etc.

Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I understand your insecurities. I like your idea of just doing a bridal shoot the next day instead. If you’re going to feel uncomfortable with a photographer clicking away all day, it will be hard to enjoy your big day. 

Post # 5
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You are going to be all dressed up in a beautiful gown, with your hair and makeup done. I have a feeling that you will end up feeling so pretty, and so excited to be marrying your fiance, that your pictures will be great no matter what! Your family and friends will be there taking snapshots, but a professional will really be able to capture those little moments. You should take some time to shop around for professional photographers, and explain your anxiety about having your picture taken. Go with someone who you feel will make sure you’re happy and comfortable all day. 


… and if all else fails, have yourself a glass or two of wine! 

Post # 6
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just remember, you do what’s best for you!

Post # 7
5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

A professional photographer is likely to get good shots of you. If you don’t have one, all you’ll have are the snapshots friends take, which are far more likely to be unflattering.

To put it in perspective, my grandma is 96. She got married almost 70 years ago. She doesn’t regret borrowing her friend’s wedding dress but she does regret that she doesn’t have any formal wedding photographs (or any at all).

Post # 8
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I might be completely wrong, but this strikes me as something that most people would regret.  I can understand feeling self concious infront of a camera, but these are memories that you will be able to capture and share for the rest of you life.  I just can’t image having kids and not having a single wedding photo to share with them.  I think about how precious my grandparent’s wedding photos are to me and it would sadden me not to be able to pass my own onto future grandchildren.  Again, I might be wrong, but I have a slight suspicion that no matter what you think of photos of you now, you could look back on them in the future and say, wow!  look how great I looked… and to think that I used to hate the way I looked in photos… I’ve seen friends go through this:  “Wow, look how thin I was in high school… and I always felt so heavy! Man, if only I could look like that now… I love this picture!”  What ever you choose I hope it works out for the best!  If nothing else I really hope that you and your husband will get some pictures taken together the day after.  🙂

Post # 9
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I strongly suggest you reconsider this idea.  It’s not just you that the photographer will be taking pictures of.  I think you will regret not having photos of everthing else.  Additionally, I think you will be very surprised at the pictures of you that your photographer will take.  I absolutely HATE pictures of me.  I consider myself to be a pretty girl, but incredibly unphotogenic.  I have never liked a professional picture of myself.  Howvever, of my 700 or so wedding pictures, there are only a handful of myself that I don’t like.  I was honestly very shocked at how good I looked in my wedding pictures.  I really wasn’t expecting much but I looked amazing.  I am almost positive that will happen to you too.

Post # 10
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

OP, you are SO BEAUTIFUL! I saw your makeup photos and you are gorgeous. I suggest hiring a photographer that shoots in a journalistic style and is less posy. You hardly notice those kind of photographers because they lie low and shoot photos that are very candid. Then you can have the formal ones the day after and do bridal portraits and photos with your groom and wedding party if they are available the next day or even a couple of days or weeks later. I highly recommend hiring a photographer that is mostly out of the way so you aren’t concerned but still have beautiful memories of your wedding day. After all, I can hardly remember my senior prom and that was only a few years ago. I am so glad I have photos of those events in my life to reflect on. When I am a granny I can look back and relive those memories.



Post # 11
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel like this is something you would regret.  The key to getting a few pictures of yourself that you love is 1) hiring a good photographer, and 2) quantity of pictures.  Just by sheer odds, even with snapshots with a cheapie camera if I take lots of myself, I’m bound to hit a good angle once in a while.  I would arrange for a photographer that doesn’t post pictures online/publically before you’ve seen them first.  Then, what’s the worst that will happen?  You’ll get a disk of a pictures with some you don’t like and you just don’t print them/include them in your album/show them to people. 

I’m fairly certain that in the future you’ll want to remember how you looked on your wedding day.  And hopefully will be more secure in yourself to just see happy and in love 🙂


Post # 12
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with getting a photojournalist style photographer. They are way less intrusive and if you  get a good one, you will hardly notice he’s there. 

i also agree I think you’ll totally regret not having professional photos to document wshot whope be one of if not the bet days of your life!

Post # 13
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m actually a pro photographer. I don’t talk about it here because, well, that’s not why I’m here. Long story short, I actually kinda like when girls tell me that they hate pictures. It makes me that much more excited for them to see the pictures because then they see how hot they looked Laughing. Find a photographer that gets to know you and ask about their style of shooting. When you find the right one, you’ll know and feel awesome about the experience!

Post # 14
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I understand where you are coming from. I am usually a very self consious person and when there is a camera around I usually avoid it. I used to like being in photos until I started comparing myself to the ones in the photos next to me. I would think, “Ugh, look at my arms, or I am so short compared to ‘so-and-so'”… But I am having a photographer for my wedding because it is a very special day, and I think you would regret not having a photographer on your special day. Even if you tell him/her that you don’t want a lot of photos, you will at least have some pictures to look back on when you are older and feel like reminiscing. Plus, the great thing about a professional photographer is it is their job to make you look amazing!

If it’s a self consious thing like what I have, just remember you are a beautiful person and I think eventually in the future you will want to have those photos, even if you dread it now. 

Good luck on your decision  🙂

Post # 15
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I honestly think you will regret it. Maybe not make it a budget priority, but in some capacity have pictures.

Post # 16
394 posts
Helper bee

@MissFireFlower:  I looked at your makeup post, and dear, you are gorgeous and have absolutely nothing to fear. I agree with the PP’s that you should look into a more documentary or photojournalistic photographer for your wedding as opposed to a traditional style one. Also really get to know your photographer before hand, being comfortable around your photographer (in general) can make a world of difference! You will also be surprised at the difference that a professionally trained photographer can make when having your photo taken. If you choose a really fabulous professional, they will be able to work with you to make sure you are nothing but confident on your wedding day. 

From a photographer’s perspective, I would also highly suggest you do an engagement session with the photographer that you choose. This way you can get familiar and more comfortable shooting with them prior ot your wedding day. This will also help put you at ease during the wedding. If you have any other photography concerns or would just like to further chat about how to be comfortable having your picture taken, feel free to message me anytime!!!  

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