- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I’d just buy everything. I didn’t have a shower (I don’t agree with them, personally, but I don’t think poorly of others who have them) and we just purchased everything ourselves. I think you only need a registry if you’re having a shower. In my experience, people tend to want to buy the cute outfits and whatnot, not what you actually need, so I’d start purchasing the necessities.
If it was a friend of mine who did something like that I would probably show up after the baby had arrived with stuff where more could be used, like diapers, books, toys, or clothes.
I think it is the parents’ responsibility to purchase the necessities. If you are not having a shower, people will likely bring or send gifts after the baby is born.
Thanks for the input. I will start with the important purchases very soon. Just looking at everything we need is just adding up. It would be nice if someone purchased one the more important items for us, only in a perfect world, I guess.
@SoontobeMsL: Do you have a close friend that has mentioned wanting to help throw a shower for you? Its not always moms that throw showers.
But otherwise I am with the others. Time to start budgeting and figure out how to get what you need. Remember, not everything has to be new from an expensive store. Try baby-specific consignment and thrift shops, craigslist, tag sales etc.
I would buy all the necessities yourself for sure. For example, you can’t take the baby home without a car seat so I would just get that yourself instead of waiting and hoping osmeone will buy it. Plus, this gives you more time to tinker with it and get the hang of installing it and moving it around.
I think unless it was an immediate family member (e.g. sibling), I probably wouldn’t get a whole lot off the registry (if at all) for someone pre-delivery. Usually when there isn’t a shower or any other big get-together, we just gift toys and clothes.
@SoontobeMsL: I don’t buy people gifts really, especially off a registry, if there’s no shower. Maybe I’m wrong in that but I just don’t. I may end up getting them a cute outfit and make you a lasagna when you get home from the hospital to say congratulations but I wouldn’t send you a boppy off your registry just because you’re pregnant. I’d start buying some of the things you need, you still have some time left to buy EVERYthing, and a lot of things you don’t even need immediately. If someone gets you something you bought you can always return or exchange one of them
I am not having a shower and I got everything myself. Why wait and stress yourself out? My life philosophy is never to depend on anyone else. Get what you need, that way you could always (if someone asked) tell someone that you would love some books or some wood developmental toys, or diapers- things you can never have enough of!
@ThreeMeers: I thought about that but my friends don’t exactly have the extra money to throw me a bash. Even if they were planning on it, nothing has been purchased off of my registry to even hint of a possible party. I’ll be full term in 6 weeks, so I can go into labor at any point after that.
I always check out registries for friends and send a gift whether they have a shower or not. I guess I can’t expect everyone to do what I do.
@cbee: You are right! I’m starting to learn that we should never rely on other people. Its just that I have gone to so many baby showers myself, I would think that even though I am not having a shower, it would be nice for that person to recipricate. But everyone has their own agenda.
@MsJ2theZ: Lasagna is a great idea!
@SoontobeMsL: I’ve never checked a registry and sent a gift to someone if they didn’t have a shower, I mostly assumed they didn’t have registries. I usually bring a gift of clothes/blankets when I meet baby for the first time. I haven’t had any friends not have a shower for their first baby though, so normally I’m bringing gifts for a second or third child.
I wouldn’t expect a single thing to be bought off my registry if I didn’t have a shower since it’s generally not a common practice. I would buy everything you need right now and people will probably bring you smaller items like clothes, blankets, diapers etc… all stuff you don’t “need” right away.
I always bring a gift when a baby is born but I wouldn’t have even thought to ask if their was a registry. I’d buy all the items yourself to save the stress. Most people will probably give you clothes:)
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