(Closed) Not having an engagement ring or replacing it with other type of gift?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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submart:  I know a couple who skipped the engagement ring. They are very well off and he bought her a bright red sports car as her “engagement ring”. They both wear plain gold bands now that they are married.

Whatever works for them is great!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Do whatever you want. You could get an item or go on a trip. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We skipped an engagement ring. I’m not a big ring person and I do a lot with my hands, so it seemed like a waste of money to us. We didn’t do anything else as a symbol of engagement though. I think your plan of putting it towards a down payment is a great one. If you guys still want to have a more traditional proposal he can still propose without a ring or other symbol of engagement.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my cousin didn’t have an engagement ring, just wedding band. and she’s awful with jewelry and knew she’d lose it at some point, so she chose something very simple and inexpensive.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Do what makes you happy! I personally like wearing a symbol of our commitment, but there are plenty of people who aren’t into rings. I’ve even heard of someone getting an “engagement horse.”

I have a non-diamond ring, so I was prepared for comments, but nobody’s really said anything negative. Your people probably know you well enough not to be expecting you to get a Tiffany solitaire or something.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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submart:  It’s not off the wall!  It’s a very reasonable choice to forego the e-ring.  I mean really, a couple decides to get engaged together, why do we need to “mark” the woman?  It’s a bit silly.

My DH and I considered skipping the e-ring as well but ultimately we felt too self concious.  We thought we’d get lots of negative attention for it (especially from my family).  In the end we found out about moissionite and we felt comfortable with that options and went ahead with that.  

Lots of couples get engaged without a ring, I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh, and I should add – I have a friend who got an engagement mountain bike!

But I still stand by the idea that no gift is necessary.  If it doesn’t mean anything to you, just skip it!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You do you! Who cares what anyone else thinks, do what makes you and your Fiance the happiest 🙂 And congrats on your upcoming engagement. 

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