Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2016 - Backyard
My boyfriend and I are slowly starting to talk about getting engaged in the near future. I have never really been a jewlery person. I wear earrings everyday but I am not very delicate and am always on the go. I don’t see an engagement ring staying fresh and intact for very long on my finger. In addition, I don’t like diamonds for ethical reasons.
I have considered getting a small bezel style moissanite ring as a token of our engagement. However, my boyfriend suggested that we could possibly not do a ring at all and use something else to symbolize our engagement, such as a nice wall painting (for our future apartment/home together). I’m also thinking he could just save whatever money he was going to spend on a ring and put it towards a down payment on a house.
I still like the idea of us wearing wedding bands to symbolize that we are married.
I know this is off the wall and against the norm. But we are an oddball couple anyway.
Anyone decide to skip having an engagement ring? If so, what did you do instead?
I’m just trying to think things through. I never considered not having an e-ring but having one won’t exactly add to my life quality.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
I know a couple who skipped the engagement ring. They are very well off and he bought her a bright red sports car as her “engagement ring”. They both wear plain gold bands now that they are married.
Whatever works for them is great!
Post # 3
Do whatever you want. You could get an item or go on a trip.
Post # 4
We skipped an engagement ring. I’m not a big ring person and I do a lot with my hands, so it seemed like a waste of money to us. We didn’t do anything else as a symbol of engagement though. I think your plan of putting it towards a down payment is a great one. If you guys still want to have a more traditional proposal he can still propose without a ring or other symbol of engagement.
Post # 5
my cousin didn’t have an engagement ring, just wedding band. and she’s awful with jewelry and knew she’d lose it at some point, so she chose something very simple and inexpensive.
Post # 6
Do what makes you happy! I personally like wearing a symbol of our commitment, but there are plenty of people who aren’t into rings. I’ve even heard of someone getting an “engagement horse.”
I have a non-diamond ring, so I was prepared for comments, but nobody’s really said anything negative. Your people probably know you well enough not to be expecting you to get a Tiffany solitaire or something.
Post # 7
It’s not off the wall! It’s a very reasonable choice to forego the e-ring. I mean really, a couple decides to get engaged together, why do we need to “mark” the woman? It’s a bit silly.
My DH and I considered skipping the e-ring as well but ultimately we felt too self concious. We thought we’d get lots of negative attention for it (especially from my family). In the end we found out about moissionite and we felt comfortable with that options and went ahead with that.
Lots of couples get engaged without a ring, I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.
Post # 8
Oh, and I should add – I have a friend who got an engagement mountain bike!
But I still stand by the idea that no gift is necessary. If it doesn’t mean anything to you, just skip it!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2016 - Backyard
Thanks everyone for the advice! I’m glad to know that I’m not alone. An engagement horse, car, or bike sounds interesting. haha. I work at a job where people flash around their big rings quite a bit. So I’m going to get a lot of comments if we don’t do it. I’m prepared for that.
I’m going to think about it for a few days. I know I definately want bands to symbolize our commitment, but just plain gold.
Thanks again ladies
Post # 10
You do you! Who cares what anyone else thinks, do what makes you and your Fiance the happiest 🙂 And congrats on your upcoming engagement.