(Closed) Not having cold feet but definitely feeling emotional

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Underneath all of the emotion, I’m sure there is a lot of excitement ready to boil over. I know exactly what you are feeling though. Not only is a new chapter in your life about to begin, but everything that you have worked so hard to put together and plan for is coming to a head. It’s the end of something…and the beginning. Nothing is better than talking about it and recognizing all those feelings. Vent, girl – just vent! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well, my date isn’t exactly approaching… But I don’t think you should be worried that “EVERYTHING is about to change.” While things that are easily observable from an outsider’s perspective, like last name and the title of “wife”, will definitely change, what you two have between you will be the same great relationship you’ve had for years. Nothing has to change as far as how you feel inside or how much you have to “answer to him”, or how carefree you feel. And personally, if I ever started to feel like I would prefer to be a carefree single girl, I would just remind myself whether I was truly happier as that girl or as my FI’s future wife. The obvious answer doesn’t leave anything to worry about. Let the novelty of those feeling wear off a little, I’m sure you’ll see that everything will be ok. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I get this. There was a similar post a couple of months back, and I saved what another Bee (I think eloping?) wrote-

“it wasnt a regret but i struggled a little at first because i felt a loss of independence and had to learn it wasnt about asking permission (which i started feeling/resenting) but taking into consideration (eg when making plans to catch up with friends)”

It’s going to be a big adjustment. I’m keeping my maiden as middle- and when a friend referred to us as “The Halls” last weekend, I loved it. That said, I’m still a little sad about the name change. What you’re dealing with it natural/normal- changing from me to us is a big step, and marriage is one of the top ten most stressful life events. Just keep in mind what Lilac610 wrote- “what you two have between you will be the same great relationship you’ve had for years,” and enjoy the ride! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got emotional a lot the week before – it’s just a lot happening!!! I think having a moment of being overwhelmed is normal.

It is a lot of changes, I just changed my last name and there is a moment of panic – like where is the person I’ve been for 30 years going and who is this news ‘mrs’?! But you have to remember that you’re still YOU. That’s never going to change. And moving forward is scary but oh so worth it ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

((HUGS!!!))

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@VegasSukie:   Talk about emotional, wait ’til you get pregnant, lol!  Ha!    Wink  I was a leaky faucet the whole time, even stupid, sappy commercials made me bawl.

It’s so normal to be emotional at a time like this – we all are, I’m sure.  All of us “just-about-to-be-married” Bee’s are going to have our crazy ups and downs.  (In my case, the closer we’re getting the more jittery I’m getting thinking about all the things I still need to get finished in time.  And I’ve been having some crazy wedding dreams, yikes!)

You’re about to embark on the most beautiful journey of your life – I’m so happy for you!  I can’t wait to see your recap, if you post.  I’m sure you’ll be a beautiful bride!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

OP, your post made me tear up!I feel the same way, and it is a beautiful time in our lives! This is excited, scary, and crazy all at the same time. My dad hasn’t talked about the wedding much, so last night I included him and asked, “Dad, are you ready to walk me down the aisle?” He put his arm around me and said, “I don’t think it’s something you can be ready for, but it’s something you have to do.” Holy crap. I lost it last night. I think that is what scares me the most about getting married is that I won’t be daddy’s girl anymore, but it’s a stupid thought because of course I will!

Congratulations on your wedding (which is a day after mine, the day is so darn so close huh?!!!!) and I wish you a lifetime of happiness with your wonderful hubby. *hugs*

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@VegasSukie:  Hi Date Twin!!  I can totally relate!!  & For me, its like I keep feeling that its not even real yet.  Even though we are 8 days away, I am like Oh, we still have plenty of time… then Panic…then thoughts, “Okay, I still need to do X,Y,Z.”  Which I keep repeating and probaly driving my Fiance nutts.  LOL.  I wish you the best of all days on your day and know you aren’t alone.  Oh and By The Way, thats where I am going for my honeymoon!!  I will be there the 9th of July!!  LOL  I really wish you the best!!

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