Post # 1
So… Right after our first dance I want to transition into the father/daughter dance. However, Fiance does NOT want to do a mother/son dance. He is not that close with his mom and would rather dance with his grandmother or not have the dance at all. However, his mom will be at the wedding, she has contributed towards it and I feel it would be disrespectful to not have a mother/son dance, BUT I do understand his personal reasons as well. Would it be odd to just not have it? Should we do the first dance, have dinner and then do the father/daughter dance and just transition to the regular partying/dancing thing? Fiance and I have talked about it, not sure if he has talked to his mom about it yet.
The only wedding I went to where they did not have the mother/son dance, the mother was from a different country and in her culture they did not do traditional mother/son dances so she felt uncomfortable doing one so they did not have one. This is not the case here, so I feel that people would ask why they didn’t do one. (Not that it matters what people think, but I would rather not have to explain FI’s and his mom’s personal business about their relationship.)
Post # 2
It would be more concerning on how the mother feels. If she is expecting a dance and it gets skipped she could very well be hurt. Has he talked to her about it?
As a guest it probably wouldn’t look odd. Just be aware of her feelings.
Post # 3
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong or weird thing to not do certain dances. Our first dance (a waltz) was something like 5 minutes long, so we did a waltz routine that ended in a crescendo in the music and then that transitioned into me dancing with my father at the same time as my husband danced with his mother, and then we allowed other family members to cut in until the song was finished. All within this one waltz.
Post # 4
theatrejulia: As far as I know, he hasn’t spoken with her about it yet. I am aware that her feelings may be hurt, and I would hate for that to happen. I actually have a wonderful relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law and I would not want her to be hurt. I personally think she would be hurt if my Fiance chose to do the dance with his grandmother instead of her, but she would not say anything. I feel it’s better to just not have the dance at all. I know he will just have to talk to her about it, but I don’t believe he has yet.