(Closed) Not having siblings in wedding party

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No one has to be included in your wedding party.  When it comes to siblings, I’d take an all-or-nothing approach and not pick and choose some over the others, which it sounds like you’d do.  Hopefully your families will understand your decision!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

A-okay! Don’t include anyone in the wedding party out of obligation. Include only the people you want to have up at the alter with you!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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erin1231:  I have 5 sisters and none of them were in my bridal party. If I asked one, it would have caused hurt feelings with the others. I had my two best friends and that’s it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

None of them HAVE to be involved in your wedding party..there’s no written rule about it. It’s your wedding, do what you want. And of course, it also makes sense if you aren’t close with his sisters, and he’s not close with your brothers. 

That being said, have you considered having your brothers stand up with you, and his sisters stand up with him? Again, there’s no rule for that either. 

Also, you could give them other important roles in the wedding if you still want to include them. For instance, at our wedding we had our brothers (we have 1 each) walk our mom’s down the aisle (although my brother didn’t come, so my Grandpa did it instead, which was a nice way of including him). We also had invited our SIL’s to do readings, which only 1 decided to do. But yes, there are other things they can do, if you’d like them to be involved in a different way. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

No, you don’t have to ask siblings just because they’re related to you or they’re close to your age. You should ask the people you are closest with. I’ve got 2 sisters and my Fiance has 3 sisters – I’ve asked both my sisters to be involved because I’m close with them, but I’ve only asked 1 of my FSILs because I’m neither me or my Fiance are close with the other 2. If you’re close with your brothers, however, there is nothing stopping you from having them stand on your side and your Fiance having his sisters stand on his side.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper

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erin1231:  

October 2017 is ages away so do not choose anyone yet .  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We are both close with our sibilings so they will be in the wedding party. My brother will be on my side and his brother will be the best man and his sister will be a groomswoman. Just because your sibilings aren’t close with your SO doesn’t mean they can’t be in the wedding – they can always stand on your side!

But I agree with 

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elderbee 100% – your wedding is WAY too far away to be picking a wedding party any time soon.  

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It’s totally fine.  I’m not close with my fiancé’s 2 sisters, but they are in my wedding party out of formality / wanting to get closer. But my own sister might not be in my wedding party for much longer (because she’s a terrible Maid/Matron of Honor and sister).  I think you should choose the people closest to you.  No one is going to think any less of you, especially since it’s not like you’re including one of the sisters and excluding the other. You could have them involved in other ways (serving as ushers, doing readings, etc).  I was in my friend’s wedding last year and she has a brother and her groom has a sister, but neither of them were included. Instead, her brother officiated and his sister did a beautiful reading.  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m another vote in agreement with @elderbee, but I also don’t think there is an issue with not including siblings. I have 2 sisters and neither are involved, but also didn’t expect to be.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m an only child. My Fiance has three siblings. His sister is going to a bridesmaid as we get along well and consider each other friends. Only one of FI’s brother is going to be in the wedding party. The other brother will be arriving the day of the wedding because he has to fly out to pick up his daughter.

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