(Closed) Not how I expected to feel

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Well, I do not think you are the only one who has had tiffs with their fiancé.  What have you been arguing about?  Who typically initiates the argument?  This is a high intensity time, and it might be an adjustment phase.  You two made a very big decision to be permanent life partners – it can have an unexpected psychological affect! 

Post # 3
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We all go through those ups and downs, Bee! My Fiance was so snappy with me this last week, which is unlike him. We talked about it and he’s been so stressed with work lately, that he was unknowingly taking it out on me. Do you know why you guys are arguing? Are you both stressed over other things and taking it out on one another? Don’t let this get you down about wedding planning. It’s just a little bump that you’ll get over in no time.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Do you do much together outside of everyday life stuff and wedding planning? Perhaps you need to organise a picnic, a brunch out, a movie night, or something you enjoy doing together to just relax. I’ve been in the same situation. Turns out he was just really stressed and I hadn’t realised. We talked, and not only did the issues resolve, but we became closer. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

When I worked night shift for too long in a row, it turned me into a full-time PMS-y bitch. I didn’t realize how “not myself” I was until I took a vacation and slept for a week. Getting up on the weekends used to put me in a brutal mood, so he’s probably not been the happiest to get up and then run out to do planning.

I’m not saying it’s an excuse for him to treat you crappy, but maybe it’s time for a little adjustment. Can you try letting him sleep in a little more on the weekends, or help him out on Mondays by having “breakfast” ready for him when he gets up? Sometimes just saying “hey, you’re being a jerk but I love you anyway” is enough to snap someone out of their funk.

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