Post # 1
To preface this, I am someone who can’t stand surprises, not knowing things, and being caught off guard/unprepared for something.
So back in February, my SO and I discussed a timeline and he said he would propose within a year. We’ve had our rings picked out for a long time, but he didn’t know my ring size. Since I am visiting my family this week, and my mom makes jewelry and has a ring sizer, SO asked me to find out my ring size while I’m here. I did, and I texted him my ring size. Then all of a sudden I felt like I wanted a different ring than the one we decided on ages ago, so I started scouring the Internet for new ones. I looked for hours, compared all of them to the original ring, and then realized – I love the original ring. That’s why I picked it in the first place. So why was I looking for new ones?
That’s when it hit me. Yes, he knew the ring I wanted, but when he didn’t know my ring size, he couldn’t get the ring and propose. Now he knows the ring I want and knows my ring size, so he could propose to me any time, with no warning whatsoever. The ball is completely in his court. I have no control over the waiting anymore. That thought is TERRIFYING to me. I realized that looking for a different ring was just a way for me to attempt to regain some control of the situation.
Luckily he’s an awesome guy who totally gets me and my weirdness. I talked to him about my feelings and he said he would give me a one-month heads up. 🙂
Has anyone else ever felt like this?
Post # 3
This is so exciting for you!! I’m in the same boat, I’m the kind of girl that goes for what she wants and makes it happen, now it’s totally in his control & it’s killing me! ha ha
We had the ring made and he picked it up MONTHS ago! I’ve definitely had a re-think about if what we ordered was what I really wanted and if I wanted something else, particularly after seeing all of the amazing rings here!! I too have decided that the original is definitely what I want…I just want it so it’s MINE…does that make sense?
What you do know, is that it’s on it’s way…very exciting. I know it sounds weird but try to have fun waiting for it..I’ve been trying to keep myself busy with constant manicures and lots of jogs after work to keep myself looking good for any photos 😉
Good luck! I hope your happily ever after is sooner than you think!!
Post # 4
@TKR: Thank you and good luck to you as well! And yes, it makes perfect sense. I agree about keeping myself occupied during the waiting. Time to put some form of Mr. Bee’s plan into action, methinks 🙂
Post # 5
First, LOVE your screen name – a throwback to Friends. It always cracked me up. Second, I feel for you. I’m in a similar situation and it’s driving me crazy. My SO asked for my dad’s blessing months ago and he has all the info on the ring I want so all I can do is sit back and wait. I hate not having any control but this is one situation that can’t be helped. Mr. Bee’s Plan is about all I can do! I’m glad you were able to talk to your SO and he was so understanding about how you feel. You are very lucky. Hopefully it happens soon for you!
Post # 6
@Regina Phalange: Hooray for your impending engagement! 🙂 And, yes, I totally felt like this while I was waiting. I hate surprises, and it drove me nuts that Fiance had all the control and I had no idea when or where the proposal was coming. I drove him crazy asking for the smallest hints or details, haha. It took sheer force of will for me to finally just back down and accept that I was gonna be totally in the dark about this one. It was so hard to do, but so worth it when he finally did propose.
Post # 7
@ColoradoGirl: Thanks! I’m obsessed with Friends 🙂 Good luck implementing Mr. Bee’s plan! I hope it happens soon for you too!
@HeyKaraoke: It’s going to be so hard not to press him for details, but I’ve bugged him enough about it. Hopefully I can refrain from mentioning wedding/engagement-related stuff unless he brings it up!
Post # 8
“I talked to him about my feelings and he said he would give me a one-month heads up. :)” Haha! I love that! You two seem to really get each other so good for you for talking to him and an early Congratulations 🙂
Post # 9
I agree with trying not to press for details, Mr TKR seemed upset on the weekend – he really, really wants to do it in his own time with his own plan…no involvement or questioning from me. I have put myself on an engagement talking ‘ban’ until after my birthday in August. It’s driving me nuts but I’m super glad I found this outlet
Post # 10
I hear ya, waiting when you know it is “close” can seem soooo long.
Good idea to work Mr Bee’s plan, it’ll keep you busy in the meantime.
Lol, I just thought of something, your Boyfriend or Best Friend said he’d give you a heads-up a month out… hmmm, thinking that “What is your ring size” might be all that you ever get (guys are kind of mysterious when it comes to such things… and down the road he might say… “hey I did you give you a heads-up I asked your ring size”… ) and inevitably us girls go…
DUH, I missed it.
Congratulations, and try to relax it’ll be happen in good time (and his way), and I promise it’ll be wonderful.
Post # 11
@Ms Flamenco: Haha, thanks 🙂
@TKR: That’s what we’re here for!
@This Time Round: My first thought was that he was trying to trick me or throw me off, but he said he wasn’t… for my own sanity I have to believe him! Lol.