(Closed) Not in love with my e-ring

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Wow!  I didn’t have that problem but your ring is gorgeous!  You could dress it up with an interesting band.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ooo! I love your ring, but I totally understand where you’re coming from.  Sometimes I feel like my ring is not exactly what I wanted, but I just remind myself what it symbolizes.

You can always get it reset later on in life (maybe 2 or 5 year anniversary?) I might do something like this ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry, I don’t have that difficulty. But I must say, your ring is gorgeous! And I also think it is really selfless of you to have not told your Fiance your feelings about the ring because you think that it could hurt him and you appreciate the symbolism and sentiment behind the ring. 

I agree that you should definitely find a wedding band that you love. And although I’m sure your feelings regarding your e-ring will begin to fade, you do deserve to be happy. Depending on the feelings of your Fiance, maybe it would be okay to talk to him about altering your setting to something you would love.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Liss: I was not in love with my original e-ring. I wore it for about 6 months before I told Fiance that I’d like to look into getting it reset. We tried to compromise and look at wraps/ring guards (I had a solitaire and I wanted something with a little more detail) and when I couldn’t find one I liked we just decided to change the setting all together. At first he was a little upset that I didn’t like it, but in the long run he’d rather me be happy with what I’ll be wearing for the rest of my life even if he didn’t pick it on his own. Bring it up casually if you can, you might be surprised by his reaction.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I feel ya… I think your ring is beautiful but to me a 3 stone ring seemed more like an anniversary thing than an engagement thing, and I didn’t want one. So I understand how you can think its pretty but still not love it. Do you think your Fiance might be open to modifying the setting? It seems like it’d be easy enough to just have the center stone reset in a plain etched band and use the two side stones for beautiful earrings– no? 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@HoneyBear: agreed, it is really sweet that OP held back saying anything to make sure her Fiance is happy. ๐Ÿ™‚

As for your ring, it’s gorgeous. I’l agree wtih PPs on an upgrade/change in a few years or picking a band that is more to your liking. Or get it reset.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can you just modify your current ring?   Say, turn it into a solitare by remove the two side stones and make earrings or seomthing out of them?  That way you keep *most* of the ring he proposed with as your e-ring but it has a different look. 

Edit: AHH!  i should read responses first…. yeah, what corgitales said.  =)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I third the solitaire/earrings idea…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

so many good ideas here! I also agree that the wedding band you choose will really change how you think  of the e-ring, so try that first and see.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ditto on the solitare and earrings idea. Tell him you can wear the earrings on the wedding day too!

My friend had a promise ring and she turned it into a bezel necklace for the wedding after he proposed with the actual engagement ring.

I think as long as you gently let him know, he will understand and wnat you to be happy with what you have. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Or, or; make a solitaire then you have two family diamonds to pass down ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know how you feel. My ring is not exactly what I would have chosen if I’d chosen it, and it’s not what I envisioned for myself either. However, I never sat around thinking about diamond rings too much before getting engaged so I didn’t expect any certain ring either. The reasons I wasn’t crazy about the ring in the first place actually turned out to be the exact reason why I love it so much now- I would never want to have to pick my own ring. No offense to those who have, but it seems completely unromantic to me. I love my ring because he chose it & completely surprised me with the proposal all on his own. Plus, I chose a band more my style & I LOVE LOVE the way they look together ๐Ÿ™‚ If you’d like to change it & he’s fine with it, the solitare/earrings idea sounds great to me!

I think your ring is gorgeous by the way!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I was thinking the exact same thing that the PPs mentioned about turning the side stones into earrings.  Perhaps you could wear the diamond earrings on your wedding day.  I think modifying the ring is fantastic

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