Post # 1
I’ve been planning like crazy for a while now. The wedding is in November but I wanted to get a headstart (since last year!) so I wouldn’t have to rush at the end. Problem is, I kind of wish I held out on booking our venue. I’m just not in love with it. I hate feeling this way because I know a wedding isn’t about the venue or any of the materialistic things.
We’ve paid a $1,000 downpayment…I think it’s only refundable (or mostly) if they can find a similar party size for the same day (it’s also on a Friday, mistake on our part if we wanted to pull out). The place is kind of ugly and dated (except the garden outside is beautiful and has lights all over). Unless our weather is warm enough to have our ceremony outside, we’re having it in our reception room and I know this sounds selfish, but it’s not a grand entrance…at all. I don’t want anything spectacular, just…there’s not even an actual aisle to walk down. Maybe I put too much thought into this – I’ve always thought I’d show up entering through these grand doors or something, LOL
I think the reason why I sort of jumped the gun was because we get our ceremony for free, 3 free hors d’oeuvres per person, and free chair covers. We also got a few dollars off per plate since we’re an off-season.
I don’t know, I guess I just need some thoughts from you bees. I just know this is where I can relay all my wedding thoughts and be understood.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
How much is the venue total? You should post a picture of the venue. I think you should keep your venue and make the most of it. There are ways to re-decorate to make it visually appeasing. And November might be warm enough to still have the ceremony outside. depends on where you live. Considering how bad the weather is now and how long it lasts, it just might be ok fall weather in November. Plus I think its great you received those free items as well. Hope it works out for you.
Post # 4
@slc201329: Thank you 🙂 we are paying $60 per person and I think we will end up at under 100 people. At first we had about 115, but when I redid the guest list this year we were under 100 (I think partly because we took out kids). It also includes a huge open bar, I think they have the largest amount of options around. I’m probably just being a baby and just getting really stressed over planning most of this myself. Here’s a photo, I believe this is our room:
I also really wanted to get the larger room simply because in the room we’re getting, the dance floor is in an awkward spot in the corner. In the larger room, it’s in the middle and the room composition just makes way more sense. But they told me I’d have to meet a guest minimum even if the room wasn’t taken that day, which is lame. When we went to the tasting, a bride there told me they would give us the larger toom if no one was using it on our day, but doesn’t look like it.
I also want to add some awesome christmas lights to the ceiling, but they said I’d have to hire a professional to do that for us (even though I can think of many people personally/not pro’s who would do it for us).It’s just another added expensce unfortunately.
Post # 5
@slc201329: P.S. I’m in Illinois and our weather always has bad mood swings, so that’s why I’m hoping it has a warmer one the day of the wedding so we can have the ceremony outside ;D
Post # 6
The room doesn’t look horrible at all! Looks like a typical reception area.. I think for the amount you are paying, you are getting an awesome deal!
Post # 7
@jenilynevette: I must just be completely burnt out on planning then because I loved the venue up until maybe a week ago, I started having doubts. My *actual* dream venue is waaaaaayy too expensive ($22,000 and it doesn’t include much! Just the bare minimum). I think once things settle down, or I take a break…I will go back to normal 😛
Post # 8
It’s really beautiful! Why don’t you like it?
Post # 9
@Elrodien: I love all the windows in that room! Very nice….
Post # 10
@Elrodien: I think you are burnt out on planning 🙂 Your venue looks awesome – LOVE the giant windows and the pretty garden view. What time of day is your reception? If it’s at night, have you been seen the room at night?
IMO, there are a few minor things that make it look “dated” 70s/80s – the carpet, the lighting (the white spotlights) and the windows a little. These will all look much better in the afternoon/evening, versus the middle of the day. And no one is going to notice those things, esp if your reception is at night and/or the lights are dimmed. The windows, oh well. You’ve got giant 70s windows with a gorgeous view – tradeoffs!
Regarding the christmas lights, can you incorporate other light elements with the centerpiece/on your table to kind of get *some* of that effect? I’m thinking battery powered tea lights in a mason jar with or without clear glass pebbles on the bottom, or tumbled glass in white or your wedding color(s). Some nice, diffuse, soft light.
Post # 11
I definitely think if you think of different decorating options you can turn this into what you want 🙂 And that doesn’t mean you’ll have to spend a ton either! Just think of what you picture on your day and work to make that venue what you want – think of it as a canvas and not an end 🙂
Post # 12
@Elrodien: I think it’s a really pretty room! I love rooms with tons of windows like that!
Post # 13
It looks like a nice room to me! 🙂 I agree with @ittybittykittycommittee that you are probably just burnt out right now and the venue will look better once its decorated and lights are dim. Everyone will be in there having fun and no one will notice the carpet.
Take a breather and revisit it a week or so. Looks like a great deal and the garden looks beautiful and will probably look even more amazing especially lit up at night!
Post # 14
@Elrodien: Are you in southern IL? I do not see how you can swing an outdoor wedding in November…Your guests will be cold and unhappy. I would not have an outdoor ceremony in IL past September…
I do think for what you are getting the venue is great! Love the windows. No place is perfect!!
Post # 15
It is quite lovely. I asked my FI what he thought of it and he says it is REALLY nice. We both think that sometimes we expect way too much as a comparitive society. My FI said that some folks are happy to have a wedding in their back yard. Our expectations for things should not be too high. It is really pretty and you can decorate it to be more your style. It will work out fine, there is no need to change venues now…
Post # 16
I really like it. The windows are great and the tables look beautiful, but most of all it comes with so much and you can afford it. i think you will decorate it beautifully.