(Closed) Not in love with the dress at first sight…

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I will tell you what I tell all bee’s. Not everyone has an emotional reaction to their dress. You could try on 100 dresses and never have that SYTTD moment that has been played up so much on TV. Some women get it, some don’t. I like you, never had that emotional attachment to my dress. It’s a nice dress and it flatters me so I bought it. 

For what it’s worth, the dress looks great on you. I would buy something you like and that flatters your shape (which that dress does) and worry less about the big bridal moment. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

Oh, I wanted to add that I had a similar experience when I bought the dress. My mom picked it out and she loved it so much (which is saying something because she hated every other one) that I wanted to have it just to cherish the memory of her picking it out and putting it on me and loving it. I feel that is YOUR SYTTD moments, when your entourage started getting emotional about it 🙂

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The dress is beautiful! Remember the TV is edited to make it appear dramatic. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

That dress is absolutely stunning on you! 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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jwaka24:  I think the dress looks beautiful on you, it fits you really well! how come you don’t like it? were you hoping for something else?

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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jwaka24:  your dress is beautiful!!!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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jwaka24:  you look great in that dress. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I tried on around 80 dresses and never had that emotional moment. My mum and Maid/Matron of Honor teared up at a lot of them, said ‘this is the one!’ to a few of them etc. I kept looking and probably looked too much haha. Even the one I ended up buying didn’t give me any tears or anything. So I guess that doesn’t happen for everyone. 
That being said, you’ve only been to one store and there’s plenty more out there that might give you a better feeling! You can always go back to this one. It is stunning!

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think this dress is PERFECT!!! I’m obsessed with it! Looks amazing on u!

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Girl that is STUNNING!

 

Just saw your last post… If it helps any, I was not really envisioning the dress I bought either. I was thinking more of a free flowing boho feel and ended up with a beaded fit and flair with a huge tulle train! Way more “wedding dressy” than I thought I would end up with! But hey, it’s your wedding day. It really is the only time you can wear a dress like that. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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jwaka24:  OMG this dress is amazing!!

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think the dress is amazing and looks fabulous on you. I also agree that people tend to have unrealistic expectations about reactions to a dress. Ultimately, it is an inanimate object – some people will react emotionally to it while others will not.

However, DO NOT let them buy this dress for you if you are going to continue to look at other dresses, decide you do not like yours and then buy another unless you can pay them back every penny they spent. IMO, that would be disrespectful of their money and their feelings and their time. Only allow them to buy it if you are actually going to wear it, because wedding dress regret is a costly mistake to make.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Wow what a gorgeous dress!! That dress can def give many brides dress regret!!! Its stunning!!!

 

Have to be honest, I was not envisioning myself in the dress I picked either HOWEVER seeing my entourage cry helped me decide.  I am not one who would cry over a dress, however I did keep going back to my dress and did not want to try on any others.  Do I still ooh and ahh over other  bride’s dresses, of course, however at the end of the day I love my dress and feel the same sentimental feelings you described.  For me those sentimental feelings mean the world, more so than “is this my dress”.  At the end of the day you need to ask youself what makes you happy.

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