Post # 1
Friends of mine and FI’s are getting married in September. Fi is in the wedding party, I am not. We are both going to the bachelor/bachelorette parties in August (thrown separately). On the event wall, the girls in the party described the cost of everything, including staying in the hotel. I figure I have to pay for my dinner, my drinks, and my stay for the hotel.
Fiance claims for their bachelor party, only the groomsmen are paying for the room? So, typically, does the bridal party cover that expense for everyone? Or does everyone that goes pay equally to everything? We’ve both never been in a wedding party or attended these and aren’t sure of the norm?
Post # 3
I do think it varies by circle, but if I were not a bridesmaid and attended a bachelorette, I would expect to pay for my food, drinks, and accommodations, and I’d try to help pay for the bride’s portion as well.
Post # 4
we just chip in for the bride but pay for everything ourselves! may be different in different circles, though…
Post # 5
I think it’s only fair that everything that you take part in, you pay. If you don’t stay at the hotel, you don’t pay but if you do, you should pay.
I have never heard of the bridal party covering expenses for everyone.
Post # 6
I have always contributed to the overall costs of a bachelorette party when attending as a guest (ie room rental, group costs like drinks, food, entertainment).
If that’s what the groomsmen are doing maybe it’s a nice gesture for the rest of the guests? I wouldn’t expect it though. I usually expect to be told, it’s $X per person.
Post # 7
I always thought that everything at the bachelorette party gets split evenly by everyone who is coming. For my sister’s, there are people coming who aren’t in the wedding party. They are responsible for their piece of the hotel room, their food and drink, and the concert tickets, plus splitting the cost of everything for my sister.
I stepped up and paid for my sister’s ticket and her portion of the hotel room just to help everyone out a bit.
Post # 8
I’ve never heard of the bridal party paying everyone’s way as far as hotel is concerned. In all the parties I’ve been to, and in the one planned for me, the cost was split equally amongst the attendees, including my dinner/drink and night’s stay.
Maybe your FI’s party is organized differently, but as far as I know, it’s a rarer scenario.
Post # 9
In the case of “parties” that are held for the Bride & Groom… Engagement, Showers, Bachelorettes etc… there are fewer standards on how things are done… these are cases when “regional” customs seem to come into play.
I suggest that you call up one of the Bridesmaids or the Maid/Matron of Honor and tell her you are thrilled to have been invited, but you want some more info about the details, and as a Guest what is expected of you.
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, I thought that I should pay for everything I am participating in as well, but now I can confirm it with Fiance.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
chip in for bride then everyone pays their own…
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
My bridesmaids did cover the room by themselves, but everything else was split between the people coming.
Most of the bachelorette’s I have been to however, I helped pay for all the stuff even if I was not in the party.
Post # 13
Everyone splits the cost of the brides stuff and pays for their own! Atleast thats how they did it at mine