Post # 1
Ok, another gift question.
another friend is getting married in 2 weeks, destination. saw as not invited for obvious reasons, they were only allowed 40 in their venue and we are not the best of friends. We are friends who hang out a few times a year and text a whole lot. I used to work for her fiancée And went to school with her in college. We have been there for each other during our wedding planning.
i am inviting her to my wedding next year. Should I still send her a gift even though I was not invited? If so, what should I send?
Post # 3
I don’t think so. Maybe if she’d at least sent you a courtesy invite…..
If you choose to have a destination wedding, you get fewer gifts. That’s pretty much a fact of life, and if she’s chosen this route, I am sure she realizes this and won’t be expecting anything.
Post # 4
You obviously aren’t required to, but of course it’s always a nice gesture! I received some gifts from people who I didn’t invite to my wedding. They averaged about $50 in price. Obviously you don’t have to do that much. One gave me a check, the others just got something off of my registry.
Post # 5
If you want to, then go ahead, it’ll be unexpected and I’m sure your friend will appreciate it. I wouldn’t give a huge $500 gift or anything, just something small; but that’s just me.
Post # 6
@meetmethere2013: I think it’s a really nice gesture to send a gift even if you’re not invited because it’s a small Destination Wedding. I wouldn’t spend hundreds on it, but maybe something off her registry or a gift card to a restaurant/store you know she loves.
Post # 7
I would get them a gift. If it’s a friend you hang out with on a regular basis and you can afford it, why not?
Post # 8
I often buy small registry items for more distant friends and kids that I used to coach. It’s mostly a gesture more than anything when I do it and everyone is really pleased. It’s usually salad servers or a box of their casual glasses, for example. I’d say go for it, as long as you have room in your budget.