Not invited to rehearsal dinner

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
14179 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You most definitely should have been invited to the rehearsal dinner along with your fiancé. That was rude and his recourse would normally be to skip the dinner. 

That said, I don’t know how your Fiance can stand up for this person with the intent of never seeing him again or watch him spend $$$$  on his wedding when he has owed 8K for years and refuses to pay it back. 

At the very least H needs to put a repayment plan in writing. It’s not too late to address any of this or to have second thoughts for that matter. 

Post # 17
3194 posts
Sugar bee

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bostonbee2018 :  That’s exactly what I was thinking, too! She wasn’t invited because they’re not married. Not saying it’s right, though. Maybe the bride got some really bad etiquette advice.

Post # 18
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

The groom received $8000 from your fiance that was not paid back. The least he could do is to invite you to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 19
286 posts
Helper bee

You should have been invited, I’d feel crappy too. Based on the history you explained, I’d be tempted to back out of the whole wedding. If you really do want to attend the wedding, you just have to ignore the whole rehearsal dinner situation and move on.

Post # 20
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

For our rehearsal dinner we only invited people that were in the bridal party 

Post # 22
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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schuyler :  Are you going to take the financial loss or bring this up with a lawyer? I don’t know why you would ever send off that kind of money without a contract unless you were being 10000% charitable and expected no returns.

Post # 23
1492 posts
Bumble bee

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schuyler :  Why are you friends with someone who won’t pay back that kind of a loan? I would have refused his wedding invite in the first place and RSVP’d with an invoice for repayment of that loan in the return envelope to them. 

Note to yourselves in future: Don’t loan people money, don’t loan money unless you are ok never getting it back. 

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