Post # 31
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Yay! Glad to see your update. I think you scored major girlfriend points by being cool about the situation even though I totally understand why it bothered you. And he scored major boyfriend points by recognizing how inappropriate that was and rectifying it. Talk about a win-win!
Post # 32
stardustintheeyes: Great update! This is what the Bee is for – make a big deal on here and minimize the real life drama. 😛
Post # 33
stardustintheeyes: REDACTED! Read your update! Great!
Post # 34
I had a similar situation with my Fiance and his bff (she was married and ten plus years his senior) but she had major issues with me when I arrived on the scene. Even using her kids and her relatives to give him guilt trips when he spent time with me. My Fiance was not as amazing as your SO seems to be and we had issues. You’re a lucky girl! 🙂 Glad it all worked out and that you are on his mind when it comes to couples stuff.
Post # 35
stardustintheeyes: Boundaries are an absolute must! I totally agree! I didn’t mean to imply that you don’t understand, so I’m sorry if it came off that way. As I said, I really think you’re all handling this very well. Truly. There are a lot of women that would lose their shit in your position and it’s refreshing to see someone who can handle things with grace. And you’re absolutely right that it’s hard when a friendship changes, no matter if you’re the same or different genders. We’re all creatures of habit, changing our relationship dynamics is always a bit rocky. But it sounds like your SO is a fantastic catch and his friend is pretty cool, as well. Hopefully, with time, you’ll all settle into a new dynamic that you’re all happy with. You don’t know any hot girls you could set her up with, do you? Double dates are always fun!
Post # 36
stardustintheeyes: personally, I don’t think the best friendship is very healthy. I was once the best friend in a similar scenario, except I had moved away from my friend and we only imed or called.
His now wife was not ok with our friendship so we went no contact for years and broke longstanding plans to dance at each others’ weddings.
for your situation I would just be very very clear how this bullshit makes you feel. His bestie has some boundary issues.
Post # 37
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
JenGirl: Actually we talked about trying to get her out there but that’s always odd. Unless she asks or shows interest in being set up or wanting to meet someone we don’t want to address it. I know from things SO has said that she wants a relationship at some point but marriage and settling down wasn’t really on her radar that much. This year alone though their social circle has 4 weddings. there were 3 last year too. So it’s becoming more and more obvious to her that she’s hit that age where people are pairing off. What’s odd is that she gets lots of attention from people but she’s just really awkward at dating. She has admitted that so I’m not passing judgement in any way lol. It makes it even more awkward for us because she has dated men too. So it’s really just on her to decide for herself when and if she wants to be set up. I have a few friends that I know she would get along great with and SO agrees he would love to see her meet a few of these people because he agreed they would be great for her. But again its not our place unless it’s asked for. Although SO is blunt with her so I know at some point he will say something ridiculous to get that ball rolling, lol they are open with each other that way.
Post # 38
stardustintheeyes: Wait, your 30th birthday is that weekend? Is it the same day as the wedding? Are you sure he isn’t trying to throw you off? 30 is a big deal birthday!<br />Also, do you trust this chick? It could be me being the jealous type. That wouldn’t fly with me at all. I feel like there is always an agenda behind stuff like that? Not from your guy but from the girl. Could she try messing up your relationship? You know her better so only you can really answer it. You two are a couple now so he should be going with you. Especially if it is your birthday. Keep us posted on what you do.
Post # 39
stardustintheeyes: that’s an awesome update and kudos to your Fiance for realizing that the sitation was weird and doing something about it!
If he was invited as a guest with no +1 that wouldn’t be weird, going as someone elses date, that’s a little weird even it is a childhood friend.
Post # 40
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
FutureWifey2016: no lol my birthday is june 30th which is the same week as fourth of july. And it all worked out. See my updates! 🙂