(Closed) not invited to wedding-is a gift required

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 14
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Worker bee

One technically isn’t obligated to give a gift even if you are invited (although you really should). But no invite = no gift, plain and simple.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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metalsandman999:  this thread is 6 years old. I doubt the OP is still in need of advice

Post # 16
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Worker bee

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julies1949:  I know, but other people in similar situations will still come accross these posts after the fact and read what people say. Kinda like you did…

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

There are some very different answers here than i got when i posted about my cousin. He didn’t invite any family to his wedding (except parents and siblings) and flat out told us he didn’t want us there. I wanted to know if we should send a gift and people jumped down my thoat that i was being rude for not sending a gift…. And yet… here they’re saying no invitation no gift. ok

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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daniellemc:  I read your thread. No one was telling you it was rude not to send a gift, only that you should if you want to, regardless of what kind of wedding they had. They had the kind of wedding they wanted and didn’t purposefully exclude just you. Folks were trying to explain that you shouldn’t have taken it so personally and let it affect whether you give them a gift. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee

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daniellemc:  Once again you are making this about you. Your cousin wanted to celebrate privately respect that and move on. Send a card because you care for them and want to celebrate their love, or don’t because they didn’t include you. 

 

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