Post # 1
My niece is having a small destination wedding. She did not invite me although I have always remembered her birthdays and holidays with gifts. She has invited others who are not related to her but are friends of her mother. I am very hurt and do not wish to give her a gift. Is this proper?
Post # 14
One technically isn’t obligated to give a gift even if you are invited (although you really should). But no invite = no gift, plain and simple.
Post # 15
this thread is 6 years old. I doubt the OP is still in need of advice
Post # 16
I know, but other people in similar situations will still come accross these posts after the fact and read what people say. Kinda like you did…
Post # 17
There are some very different answers here than i got when i posted about my cousin. He didn’t invite any family to his wedding (except parents and siblings) and flat out told us he didn’t want us there. I wanted to know if we should send a gift and people jumped down my thoat that i was being rude for not sending a gift…. And yet… here they’re saying no invitation no gift. ok
Post # 18
I read your thread. No one was telling you it was rude not to send a gift, only that you should if you want to, regardless of what kind of wedding they had. They had the kind of wedding they wanted and didn’t purposefully exclude just you. Folks were trying to explain that you shouldn’t have taken it so personally and let it affect whether you give them a gift.
Post # 19
Once again you are making this about you. Your cousin wanted to celebrate privately respect that and move on. Send a card because you care for them and want to celebrate their love, or don’t because they didn’t include you.