- 5 years ago
Any advice for how to deal with this?
I don’t want to invite my aunt and uncle. They’re boors – completely unpleasant people, openly racist and offensive, and really nobody enjoys their company. They’ve been openly rude to me in the past, commenting when I’ve gained weight, things like that. I don’t enjoy their company at all. My parents don’t associate with them, and they’re mostly estranged from the rest of the family. Not formally estranged, but nobody really makes an effort anymore.
I don’t want them anywhere near my wedding. It’s going to be small – 60 or so people. There will also be people of many different races and political affiliations and I don’t need my drunk uncle making racist comments. My parents don’t care that I don’t want to invite them. But I’m worried about my grandma getting upset about it.
What’s a good way I can explain to grandma why I didn’t invite these jerks? How do I do it without saying “I don’t like them and don’t want anything to do with them?” My parents say I’m on my own for dealing with grandma 🙂
I’m thinking of going with something like “Oh, I haven’t heard from them in years” which is true, but it’s kind of hard to pretend you forgot about an aunt and uncle.