- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Hello all! 🙂 I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor of my sister’s upcoming wedding. We have a large extended family, either as crazy or way crazier than most. Following my grandmother’s recent passing, my sister had a falling out (that was long overdue) with my dad’s sister and her family, 3 grown children who also have kids. (The stressful stuff that comes out with funeral planning, x a long history of them taking advantage of my parents.)
My very stubborn sister has decided firmly she will not be inviting them. My dad has said to my mom that he won’t go if they’re not invited but I know this isn’t true. This does give him significant stress though, and honestly while I commend her ballsiness I wonder how she will really pull this off! She plans to invite his other siblings. She hopes to not invite some of my mom’s siblings also! She’s basically like, if I don’t like you you don’t get to come and I’m not paying for your dinner. I’m like damn! Is she setting the precedent for mine?? (woo!) Or is this going to blow up in her face? In her case we’re talking about 5 adults and 4 children from his sister’s side, and potentially 5-10 more cut from my mom’s! It’d be a big burden off the guest list and $, and she has valid reason to dislike several of them (except the innocent kids of course!) but wow I mean my parent’s siblings and families?? really?
I dunno what my question really is! Anyone been in this situation? I guess what I’m really asking is, is it more trouble than it’s worth to not invite ‘major’ family members?