Post # 1
My dad has 8 brothers and sisters and we are not a close family. In fact, the first time I have seen 6 out of the 8 siblings was this January at a funeral (before that it was at least 10 years).
I don’t want to disappoint my dad but I dont want FH inviting people I don’t know, how can I personally invite people that I don’t even know?
Am I being cold?
p.s. we are trying to keep it around 100 guests (FH has a HUGE family, all of whom I am very close with and would miss if they weren’t there)
Post # 3
@ShaunaBrege: I am having a similar dilemma right now, so I am interested to see responses.
I would talk to your dad to see what his feelings are. If he isn’t close to his siblings, maybe he will tell you not to invite them. If it matters to him that they are invited, I would invite them.
Post # 4
I’m not inviting cousins on my dad’s side. Our family was not invited to their weddings and I doubt they would care to be invited to mine. My aunt (their mother) will be invited. My dad’s brother is on the “B” list because I’ve probably only seen him a hand full of times in my life.
Post # 5
I decided not to invite distant aunts/uncles and didn’t invite any of my cousins. I don’t regret my decision one bit. I am very blessed with some amazing family members and am super close with my uncle I did invite. I am named for him. My dad did ask me if I was inviting his sisters, and when I told him I wasn’t and why, he completely understood. There weren’t any hard feelings at all. I actually wish my Fiance had made the same decision. Instead, he got guilted by his mother to invite all of his cousins and aunts/uncles. I feel so bad for him every time one of them RSVPs no. It clearly upsets him. Go with your gut and invite the people you truly want to share your day with. I always remind my Fiance that our wedding is about the life we are creating together and that it is more important to include people in that day who will be a part of our lives together than it is to invite people just because we feel obligated to. Good luck with your decision.
Post # 6
This makes me feel better because I too am not inviting distant relatives especially those I have not seen in years.