(Closed) Not inviting entire father's side of family to my wedding? Need advice

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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1961 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I will have no family at my wedding. There is so much bad blood that I can’t. I don’t speak to my father. My mom died this year. And the family he has I can’t stand either. These people are not part of my life. I have no desire to have them apart of this day. Just invite those you want. Don’t feel bad. 

Family isn’t always blood. 

Post # 3
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

 

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selissal :  This is a tough spot to be in. Outside perspective may not be the best advice. I would suggest talking to your sister who knows and lives the same situation and get her take on it. 

Post # 4
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re in a tough situation. I do feel like you shouldn’t have to cut off and not invite your father’s entire side of the family if you don’t want to. If you want to invite your paternal aunt and cousin, if you feel you are close enough with them and would like them there then I would inivte them. Your relationship with your father doesn’t have to sever all of your relationships with his side of the family, unless they are as bad as he is. That’s just my opinion. 

Post # 5
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m pretty much in your exact scenario. My Dad has a huge family, and we are fb friends, but havent seen each other in years. I only invited 1 couple from my dads side, no one else. I definitely wasnt inviting my father, and there isn’t any ill will towards the rest of the family, I just…dont want them there lol. They know the wedding is next weekend, I assume they know they aren’t invited. I dont really care what they think tbh. 

Post # 7
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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selissal :  Do you see them often? I literally haven’t seen these people (besides the couple I invited) in 10+ years. So it makes it easier to not care haha. 

Post # 8
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11360 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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selissal :  because of the already established issues with your dad and thus lack of obligation on your part, it’s perfectly fine to just keep it very simple.

Think about these people one by one. If they make you smile and feel good, invite them. If they don’t, do not invite them. 

 

 

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