(Closed) not inviting FI's OOT aunt and cousin to bridal shower?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should you invite OOT close family to the bridal shower?
    Yes, you want them to feel included : (16 votes)
    94 %
    No, it looks gift grabby : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Other (please explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I included everyone even those long distance because I wanted everyone to feel included. It was not about being gift grabby though for me. It was more just an overall inclusion situation.

    Post # 4
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    3266 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I didn’t invite OOT guests for the shower. If they questioned it I just simply said “I didn’t want you feeling like you had to either make it or send a gift in lieu of attendance” and they all accepted it.

    ETA: All my OOTers were plane rides away, definitely not a couple hour card ride away.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1592 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Three hours isn’t so bad. She may want to come and make an overnight trip.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2612 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I still had invites go to out of town guests. I drew the line at out of the country.

    I wanted them to feel included.

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