(Closed) Not inviting flower girls/page boys to the reception.

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bianca123: Can you offer to pay for the sitter? I understand not wanting kids at the reception, but if the niece & nephew are in the wedding, it doesn’t seem unreasonable for their parents to have expected they’d be able to bring them to the reception. 

Post # 5
2294 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d mention that while you’d like to involve the kids in the wedding, you were hoping for an adults only reception. It’s not unheard of to get a sitter for the little ones once the ceremony is over. Some people, unfortunately take great offense in this, while others are more understanding. If they take offense, offer to pay for the sitter or maybe suggest not including them in the wedding at all to keep the peace with other guests who’ll have to make special accomodations for their children.

Post # 6
2153 posts
Buzzing bee

It is very rude to not invite them to the reception. The reception is a way to thank your guests/wedding party for coming out and supporting you. Just because they are kids doesn’t mean you can not thank them for being in your wedding. If you didn’t want any kids then you should have had no kids.

When you asked them to be in your party you invited them to the reception. By not inviting them it looks like you just wanted ‘show children’ to be in your pictures and be cute walking down the aisle, but without having to host them.

You can invite the wedding party children and no others. No one can be mad about that.

Post # 7
141 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t think there is anything wrong with inviting them to the reception but not allowing other children to attend. Do you just not want to invite them to the reception because you feel as if you must invite all children then? We are only having my fiance’s daughter at the wedding and possibly my friends daughter.  It’s your wedding, you can invite whoever you want. If people don’t like that then they don’t need to share in your special day!

Post # 8
98 posts
Worker bee

@bianca123: I have a flower girl in my wedding but she wont be coming to the reception. The mother is my Fiance best Woman – and shes happy that shes taking the little one home. Shes excited to have a night out without the kids.

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