Post # 1
together me and my fiance have agreed on not inviting his sister and her husband to our wedding. I know etiquette wise we should but she starts too much drama and everything is about her being the victim. her husband made very rude.comments to fiance about why would he ever want to marry me which caused him and my fiance to get into a fist fight. after that I received harassing calls from his sister telling me the fight was all my fault when I want even there or around and this is the 2nd time he has stood up to them for me. when I responded back to his sister I told her they have no right to talk about me like that and if they want to they should keep it to themselves, her response was my whole family talks shit about you even my brother you are nothing but trouble and just need to leave my family alone then hung up on me. I had left it alone and a few weeks later at a concert in our town she walked up to me grabbed my shirt and started yelling at me, other people around us had to pull her off me. since then we have done everything to avoid them and avoid the drama, she even went to their parents about it and we got a call saying we needed to apologise. the only reason I actually know of as to why they don’t like me is because before I came around if he wasn’t with his friends he was either home with his mom or out drinking every weekend with his sister and dad so his mom and sister are very jealous and now very rude. I really feel if she is at wedding she will try to start drama and I feel the last thing I need on one of the happiest days of my life is to have to deal with her and her drama. she is also best friends with his ex gf if for years and is positive they are meant to be together. they broke upp after high school and we have been together for 3 1/2 years so it is long over. I just know his parents and family are going to be so mad at us when they find out.we’re not.inviting her. I just don’t feel I can handle her and her hatred and drama on that day. also her and her husband have 6 Kids between them and I’m sure his mom will say something about them not being there.as well. not sure what to do, it makes me want to forget my.ballroom wedding and just elope :-S
Post # 3
This just spells big trouble for me. Do you want to start your married life with his whole family against you? I think you need to have Fiance have a big talk with Future Sister-In-Law.
Post # 4
Ew she sounds like a horrble Future Sister-In-Law, sorry you have to deal with that. At least you and your Fiance are on the same page with it all. It would be horrible if she was treating you like that and Fiance thought she was an angel.
If his family say anything just be honest and tell them what’s happened, you have nothing to be ashamed about, she does. But maybe let Fiance do most of the explaining, they might be more undertanding of the reasons if it comes from him.
Post # 5
Wow, that sounds awful! Maybe you should sound talk to the in-laws and see what they think about inviting her, maybe they agree with you!
But if they really want her there – elope!
Post # 6
I agree, sounds like big trouble.
Post # 7
everyonealways says you not just marrying him your marrying his family but even though some of my in-laws are horrible I would never not marry him because of that. our relationship is amazing I just don’t want his family ruining my dream wedding. I get along great with his grandparents and his dad.and his aunts and uncles it’s just his mom and sister.his sister is so horrible that she had her and her husbands bachelorette and bachelor party 5 weeks before their wedding on my 21st bday his mom told us we were expected to go his sister goes we can share it but there is no room in bus for you to invite anyone and informed me his ex gf would be going and the parties were separate so we wouldn’t see each other, she didn’t speak to me for months after that since we didn’t go. I just want to be happy and.have the wedding of my dreams 🙁
Post # 8
I say let your Fiance make this decision after you guys have had a really serious “big picture” talk. Big picture meaning every future holiday, every future family occasion – how is that going to go for you? You need to decide if not inviting them gives them ammo for life against you, and if you both care about that.
I have toxic family members that I have cut out of my life and have no regrets. I looked at the big picture (the rest of my life) and made the decision that was healthiest for me.
She sounds truly toxic and off her rocker. She is the kind of person “I” would have no problem cutting ties with but she is your FI’s family and whatever decision you guys make you (he mostly) will live with for the rest of your lives.
She attacked you unprovoked and that says volumes to me. What will she do in front of your future children?
If you cut her out, what are the consequences to your Fiance as far as his parents and the rest of the family? Do the family members who get along with you think she is a nut bucket? Do they see what is going on here?
Think about the big picture and make the best decision.