Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning a VERY small ceremony in Central Park. I want to invite my mom, stepdad and three close friends. However, my fiance does not want any of his family there. He is no longer talking to his mom and has lots of problems with his dad/brother/brother’s girlfriend. He worries that having them there could ruin the entire day for us.
We have discussed the above many times and he is not changing his mind.
Should I just let it go and support his decision?
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Post # 5
Yes. He clearly doesn’t want them there. If you bring it up again, ask if there are any other important people he’d like to be there, and if he says no, leave it at that.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
He’s made up his mind. If he has a change of heart, he will let you know.
Post # 7
Thanks for the responses.
I guess I worry because we still see his dad’s side of the family every month or two. I’m just concerned about how awkward it will be not to invite them.
Post # 8
Yes, I’d suggest letting it go as well. It will probably be awkward for the next meeting but sounds like it’s awkward to begin with!
Post # 9
Yes. Maybe ask if he has a close friend, or other relative (cousin, uncle) that he might want to be there.
Post # 10
I would make sure you stand by your man, if he does not want his fmaily there for whatever reason I think you need to honor that. Though you are getting married his family should still be his call.
Post # 11
Thank you for all the responses, I really appreciate them.
I will stop bringing it up and support his decision. He is close to my stepdad so at least he will have someone to get ready with.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Yep. I allowed my ex FIL to force the issue about inviting my ex MIL to the wedding and it was hugely upsetting for my ex husband. Notice all of the exes?
Post # 13
@venusandback: Should you support his decision? Heck yes, any less wil just wreck havoc on your relationship. Only he knows the whole sitch with his family, and clearly he has no desire for them to share the day.
Post # 14
This is his decision so it should be respected.
Post # 15
Drop it and support him. If he changes his mind, support him then, too.