(Closed) Not inviting my crazy aunt

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I fully support your decision, and think you are doing the only thing you can to respect your mother’s wishes.  Hopefully your dad will understand that.

I don’t think you should say anything to your dad because you already explained it to him.  If it comes up again, re-explain your position & let him know that you really don’t have a choice in the matter.  If you have to, remind him of the terrible way this aunt treated your mom and say that your mother’s comfort & happiness is more important to you than including this aunt, to whom you aren’t close at all.

Post # 5
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I did this with a cousin. Drama there too, he’s a greedy jerk to put it nicely. My Dad wasnt in favor of it (cousins father is my godfather n dads brother). But I just put out the invites and no one has said anything to me or my family. It’s your wedding, dont and can’t worry about what others may think of it, its your and your FI’s day. Invite who you want 🙂

Post # 6
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I dont think your mom shouldvd told you that (cant blame her though) but you should invite who YOU want and if that doesnt include crazy aunt then so be it!

Post # 7
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233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Your father should know that if it comes down to choosing between your aunt or your mother, you’re obviously going to choose your mother… even if he would choose differently.  I would just leave things as is. He’ll remember why she wasn’t invited.

Post # 11
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

ummm can we not invite my FI’s crazy aunts and take your crazy aunt and let them have one big crazy party together? Because I am at that point today.

Post # 12
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Good for you… I wish I didn’t have to invite my crazy uncle. Boo to crazy relatives.

You’ve told your dad, he had a chance to make more of a case than just getting defensive. If he brings it up again be prepared to calmly reassert your position. like PP have said.

Good luck.

Post # 14
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1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

In my fam they refer to me as the crazy aunt, but for very very different reasons! lol! you did the right thing. I agree with someone else here. Your dad knows exactly why you aren’t inviting her and that’s all you need to say if it comes up. Because it is your own wedding, i don’t think you owe anyone further explaination at this point. In my fam my crazy aunts are the cool ones. ( But yeah not ca ray zy like you say!)

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I’m experiencing something similar.  My father’s sister is THE drama queen.  I’m not even kidding, standing in line at the grocery store, she will tell the nearest stranger all about how her daughter got molested by her pedophile ex-husband.  My mom hates her, and I really don’t care to have her at my wedding because the last thing I want is for my new in-laws to hear about molestations and boils on her labia.  She and I have never really gotten along.  I didn’t want to invite her to the wedding, and chose to have a Destination Wedding to avoid her and her daughter’s presence (among others) because I knew her financial situation would not permit a hotel stay. 

At my birthday party, my dad told me I had to include his sister, whether I liked it or not.  Also, I will have to include her daughter and her boyfriend.  I was floored because my dad hasn’t forked over a dime to help pay for this wedding.  As it stands right now, my mom, Fiance, and I are the only ones paying for it.  We should be the ones who decide on the guest list, then.  Right?  Ugh!  My dad said he’s going to pay for my aunt’s transportation and accomodations for the wedding, too.

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