Post # 1
We used to be best friends in high school until she started dating my fiances best friend. I recently ended my friendship with her after she told my family some very untrue things that caused some serious problems in my life (not the first time shes spread untrue rumors about me!). On top of that from the begining of my fiance and I’s relationship she has critized almost everything we do, she constantly says hes really ugly and that I should break up with him. At first I thought it was sweet that she was so concerned about my relationship with him. but she took it way way to far. Almost everyday I had to deal with a text from her saying how lazy, ugly, ect. my fiance was (and we hadnt even been hanging out very much over the past two years at this point). I finally couldnt take the harrasment any longer and ended the friendship.
The problem is she is my fiances best friends girlfriend. Is it really rude to not invite her but only invite him? She never supported our relationship and I dont think that I could stand looking out and seeing her face when we say I do. What do you think?
Post # 3
I’m all for not inviting people who don’t deserve it. If you’re fiancé is on board, if you’re willing to stick by your decision not to have her there (like not having kids, or not giving people a +1), then I say go for it. But be willing to stick by it and be ready for fallout, if it’s that type of situation.
Post # 4
I would never invite her. The fact that she’s caused problems in your family is reason enough to leave her off the list.
Post # 5
You do not need to invite a significant other of one of your guests or bridal party members unless the person you’re inviting is married, engaged to, or living with someone. Otherwise, etiquette does not require you to invite your DH’s friend’s girlfriend to your wedding.
Post # 6
I had a similar problem and Inivted her anyway-then she tried to bring an extra guest! so that she wouldn’t be “bored”.
So now neither of them are comin and just FI’s friend is ( who I don’t really like either.)
Post # 7
Since your wedding is two years away, don’t worry about this right now. They may not even be together two years from now.
Post # 9
@armychica06: true. They may or may not be together and even if they are my feelings might change. I guess I’ll know what the right thing to do when I start sending out invitations.
Thanks everyone for your replies!!
Post # 10
i wouldn’t invite her. its YOUR DAY!