(Closed) Not inviting one of my guest's husbands — and a good reason why

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@lolo1986:  There are some people where it’s just known that when one person is invited their spouse is not because of the situation.  Does this usually happen with the family when the daughter is involved.

You could either go with the __ of 1 seat is reserved type of wording on the RSVP card, or just put her name alone on the invite.  If the RSVP card is returned for 2, it would be fine to contact her IMO.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are you close enough with your friends mom to contact her directly and just let her know upfront that you would love to have her there, but you would feel uncomfortable if friend’s step dad came?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree, do the

 

—-seat(s) have been bla bla bla

— will be atending

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Yeah, I would do the _ of 1 seats for EVERYONE because a) you want uniform invitations and b) no one can possibly think of bring him along.  Also you can keep tighter numbers on your guests.

I can’t believe your friend’s mom is still married to him, though!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I say be as blunt and obvious about it as you can. Who cares if it’s rude?! The jerk deserves it!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Personally, I wouldn’t invite either the stepdad or the mother.  The mother continues to be married to the man that molested her daughter and everybody just goes along with it?  No thanks.  By staying with him she is supporting his behavior and it must be a slap in the face to her daughter every day her mother remains with that man.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013
Post # 12
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Wannabee

First off, what a horrible situation to have to deal with. So sorry for your friend (and you)!

 

Second, I agree with everyone above. I would make it clear that there is only 1 seat available and only put her name on the invite. If she questions it, I would just say that there isn’t space and leave it at that.

 

Or I wouldn’t invite the mom at all.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@beachbride1216:  This. I definitely wouldn’t invite the mother either. Disgusting.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@beachbride1216:  +1  A person who covers up child molestation is just as bad as the molester.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beachbride1216:  totally agree. The mom is just as bad as the husband for staying with him.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@beachbride1216:  “Personally, I wouldn’t invite either the stepdad or the mother.  The mother continues to be married to the man that molested her daughter and everybody just goes along with it?  No thanks.  By staying with him she is supporting his behavior and it must be a slap in the face to her daughter every day her mother remains with that man.

+1.

I could not agree more!

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