(Closed) Not Inviting Some People Children?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I don’t think there IS a tactful way to handle this. You are essentially saying that you like some kids enough for them to be there, but not others. If I were a guest whose kids had not been invited, and I attended your wedding to see that other kids were invited, I would feel very offended and hurt.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You can’t invite some kids and not others. Maybe if the kids were actually a part of the wedding (flower girl, ring bearer) but there is no tactful way to say “Your kids can come, but sorry you have 6 kids and that’s too many for my venue, they can’t come.”

Child free reception is probably your best bet.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Only our children and children of close family will be invited to our wedding due to our venues capacity. Most of the people I have talked to about it are pretty understanding of the situation.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It is your wedding and you can invite/exclude who you want.  But, it might be difficult and a huge headache to have to explain to your friends why other people’s children were invited but not theirs. Maybe if you only invite the children of family and not friends that would be easier to explain.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yeah, you’ll need an across-the-board cutoff that applies to everyone (i.e. family only or nobody under age X).

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you talk to them most people will understand.  We are having the same issue.  We can only have so many people at the wedding and there has to be a cut off somewhere.  Most people will understand.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you talk to them most people will understand.  We are having the same issue.  We can only have so many people at the wedding and there has to be a cut off somewhere.  Most people will understand.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

There is really no way you can do this tactfully without hurting someone’s feelings. You either need to invite all the children or none at all (unless they are in the wedding). This is why we’re not inviting any children to our reception.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t see a problem, it’s your wedding and you invite who you want. In ours we are inviting nephews/neices and my young cousins. that’s it for children. I’m not inviting my coworkers 2 year-old who i’ve only seen twice, i’m actually not inviting any of our friends children. 

If people are offended that’s their problem not yours, you can’t invite everybody to a wedding. Most people i know are excited to get a babysitter and have a nice night out.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did a cut off at family and bridal party (although only one person in bridal party is bringing.) but other wise I can see picking and chooseing could cause problems

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MarryMeTiffany: I am doing the same as you. I cannot afford all seven million kids from family and friends. I am just putting on the RSVP’s the number of seats reserved on each invitation, for example:

 

“We have reserved ____ seats in your honor”

 

You can just fill in the blank with the amount of people you are inviting from each family. I dont find it rude, or at least I wouldnt find it rude if I received something like that. People need to be realistic. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would do only close family children if you want to some kids still. If there isnt a distinct cut off line people tend to get offended.

On the other hand it is your wedding, so if you do invite close friends kids then just explain to the other guests if they ask that there wasn’t enough room to invite everyone.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

With the exception of the pianist’s daughter and the ring bearer (and DH’s granddaughter and 2 tween nieces), the only children I invited to the reception were from out of state.  Even the out of town people did not bring their kids.  HOWEVER, I didn’t care who came to the ceremony.

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