Post # 1
Has anyone sent a save the date to someone that they no longer want to invite to the wedding? I have a co-worker who I was close with about 8 months ago and now he really annoys me so we rarely talk. Well I had sent him a save the date during the time we were close and I now don’t want to send him an invitation. Do I have to? He would only know 3 people at the wedding and he wasn’t getting a +1. I thought about telling him that since we sent the STD’s out, our budget has decreased and my mom had us cut our guest list.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I would go ahead and send him an invite. It’s a little too awkward to send him a STD and not an invite. He might even still plan on attending, which will be even more awkward if he shows up.
Post # 4
that would be really awk to work with him after wedding after you lied to him and some other co-workers went. Invite him.
Post # 5
I know it was horrible, but I did this. My former boss who I was pretty close to at the time got an STD but then I left that job and we haven’t spoken since. She will not be getting an invite. I did this also to cut down on the final guest list, nevermind the fact that it would just be awkward.
But since you still work with him, it may be a little odd. Chances are if he’s invited alone, he probably won’t go anyway. But I think you have to follow through on this one.
Post # 6
If you still work with him and/or are inviting other co-workers I think that could be odd, the right thing to do would be to invite him however if you flat out don’t like him/don’t want him there just don’t invite him and don’t talk about it, if he asks you you could mention the budget changed and you apologize for not being able to invite him, or you could say something like, really I mailed it you didn’t get it….ugh I hate the post office……hahaha.
Post # 7
I wondered the same thing…
Post # 8
STD = invitation in my opinion. Don’t give him a +1 or anything, but do send the invite just to keep things “right”.
Post # 9
Thanks for the feedback!!
We work together, but at a bank so we work in different locations. 2 out of the 3 co-workers that are invited are part of the wedding. 1 is a bridesmaid and the other is my wedding coordinator. He is a 27 year old guy who has a girlfriend of over a year and he kept asking me if I would have any single friends at the wedding that would be interested in him? And he also has the hots for my one bridesmaid he knows and she REALLY doesn’t like him.