(Closed) Not inviting spouses of friends

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee

IMO it’s rude not to invite SOs, especially if they’ll be married.

Post # 4
467 posts
Helper bee

Yes, you have to invite the SO’s if they are engaged or married.  I don’t think yoy would like to be invited to a wedding where your SO wasn’t on the guest list.  :/

Post # 5
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How many people could you possibly be talking about?  I can’t imagine you have, like, TEN friends who’ve gotten married in that time period.  Since it’s more likely one or two people, go ahead and invite them.  It’s the polite thing to do.

Post # 6
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think you have to invite them. Wouldn’t you be offended in their shoes?

Post # 7
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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It’s sad that you are rationalizing and looking for validation to NOT invite a guest’s spouse.  Just because they know someone at the wedding doesn’t mean they should have to come alone. 

Just from your introductory sentence, I think you know what is the right thing to do.


Post # 8
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you’re hanging out with them weekly how do you not know their SOs?  And yes, you do have to invite them.

Post # 10
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

YES you have to make alterations…

The Rule of Etiquette is that those that are Married – Living Together / Common Law – Engaged are “recognized social units”

So to continue on your merry plans with your original list would be a visible SNUB to them and their change in status.

Reverse the tables…

I mean honestly how would YOU FEEL if shortly after your wonderful Wedding with the Hubby you LOVE & ADORE and proud to show off to the rest of the world along with your newly minted MR & MRS STATUS was not invited to a Social Event like a Weeding… to accompany you ??

Do the right thing… invite the couples who have earned the right to be there as a couple.

Hope this helps,

PS… IF space and budget are an issue with your Venue, you may have to consider going to a B-List to make things work… so you should start thinking in that regard.  Prioritize your Guest List and see where you are at.  If you need to consider a B-List, post again, and I can give you some help in that regard.


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