(Closed) Not inviting the Moth

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

we have a similar situation with my partners father. we have invited him though but he will not come we are very sure of this.

we have tried so many times throughout the years to amend things.

its kinda stupid that you think you should just because they are blood. At the end of the day it takes more than this to be family.

If you invited her would she actually come??? 

Post # 4
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@nikstar:  That’s what I am wondering.

Post # 6
Member
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Shannyn5:  i agree dont invite her if you think she would come and you really dont want her to. Dont feel bad either, you will be surrounded by many people who love you and want the best for you, your real family, the ones who have been there for you, the ones who you have propper conversations with. 

If it really concerns you, you have over a year, you could try one more time, i by no means think you should do this if you dont want to and be prepared for the heartbreak when it goes exactly how you expected. I have been through it many times with my partner and his dad, we have tried everything, some people are incapable of change, i did not believe that was true until now.

 

Post # 7
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3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

why don’t you send her a letter updating her on your life– tell her you’re engaged and living wherever, etc etc.  see if she replies.  if she does, maybe you can open up enough calm conversation that you’d feel comfortable inviting her to your wedding.  if she doesn’t reply, then she’s obviously not interested and maybe you wouldn’t feel as guilty?

or you could not invite her but mail her a few photos?

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