(Closed) NOT JUST COLD FEET

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@MissOtter31:

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@JeffsWifey:

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@milesandbos:

Yes, yes, and yes.

 

You cannot stand this guy. Why did you even write this post? What is there to question? I hope you continue seeing your therapist.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you calling him a “FUCKTARD” in your rant clearly defined the respect you have for him. You need to leave for both of you.

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t know you, I have never seen you interact with your fiance, so I won’t make a judgment call on whether or not you are mean or abusive to him. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship in my early 20’s (as the victim), and I could have said some of the same things about my boyfriend at the time.

However, I 100% agree with PPs who have basically said – if your only reason for staying with someone is that he loves you unconditionally and you are afraid to be alone, you should not marry him. Get a dog – it will do the same thing.

For both of your sakes’, you should move on. You are incompatible; that doesn’t make anyone a bad person or a terrible partner, you just shouldn’t be together, because you don’t make each other happy. 

Post # 65
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe if you went to the gym more…

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@swanks4tw: RIIIIGHT!!! omg I sat reading this, and you pretty much said it!!!

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m curious how this will turn out, so I’m posting. I agree with everyone who said that you need to get out of this relationship, for your fiance’s sake as much as for your own.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

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@mckernae: I’m curious too. I’m not sure how likely it will be that the OP writes back since she hasn’t written since the first two posts, but here’s hoping for an update!

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@melodicsighs1: Yeah, I don’t have high hopes either but you never know!

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s an awfull situation but you have to woman up and face this. That’s not the way you talk about someone you love, and if you’re this frustrated now, how are you going to be once you’re married and can’t walk away?

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ugh, this post makes me angry. I wish this guy could see this post and leave you- it seems like its what you want anyway…

Post # 72
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Helper bee

I agree pretty much with what everyone else said.  You announced your engaged, so what? You know how many people have been engaged (some even multiple times) and called off the wedding? The sooner the better, before people start to become vested in your wedding planning. Does he know how you feel? I definitely understand where you are coming from. There was a time where I was so sick of being hurt by guys I played it safe and dated the guys I knew would not hurt me.

They were the nice guys I knew I could have a stable relationship with but they didnt make me laugh and werent exactly fun, exciting and spontaneous in the bedroom so I knew they had to go. I put myself out there again and risked being hurt by a man I really liked and guess what? 2 1/2 years later we are still together and in love. Life is too short and once you bring kids into it, it will be even harder.

Put you first NOW!

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@AirForceFiance:  I agree…this is the kind of stuff that I would say about someone if they cheated on me, not if they weren’t perfect.

You’re mean, he deserves someone who loves him…

Post # 74
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Helper bee

im new here, why do people keep writing This!!! lol

Post # 75
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Newbee

seriously why are you even with him in the first place ?  It sounds like it was doomed from the start.

Post # 76
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Helper bee

This is honestly one of the meanest posts I’ve ever seen. You took about 2 pages to completely bash the man you are “supposed” to love and some of the things you’ve said–well girl they’re just down right awful. I wouldn’t talk about my worst enemy like this. DO NOT walk down that aisle–you owe it to HIM to be honest and truthful about your feelings.

Once it’s out–LEAVE and try the pull the pieces of your life back together and allow him to do the same. One more thing–re read this and ask yourself if he wrote this about you how would you feel.

 

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